Does anyone have any information on air ambulances for 'critical' patients in nursing homes? From TAS to QLD?
My father in law suffered a major stroke in January of this year in Tasmania. He was in hospital until March and was then placed in a high care nursing home facility in a smaller town about 30 mins away from where he originated. My partner and I reside in Brisbane and before the stroke, my father in law was preparing his house to sell because he wanted to move to Brisbane to be with his son, as well as the fact that we are expecting our first child in July. He's expressed to my partner on numerous occasions that he did not want to spend another winter in Tasmania, and did not want to die alone on that island, or ever be entered into aged care. We've recently sold his house and the settlement has just gone through. My partner has power of attorney and we are currently responsible for paying his aged care bills. Since his major stroke, he has suffered another smaller stroke which has sent him into a dementia type state. Some days he's very responsive, other days not. He has lost all short term memory, and lost personality. He's an extremely intellectual man with a PhD in Indonesian, Masters in Education, a History and Political Science degree and half a Law degree. So it's quite devestating to see him deteriorate. We would like to have him transferred to another high care aged facility in Brisbane. It's his dying wish and he's currently alone. We've been told by his doctors that there's absoloutely no way that he'll ever be able to get on a commercial flight, and of course cannot be transported by car. The only way to have him transported to Queensland is through some type of Air Ambulance service that caters to 'critical patients'. We're aware that this can cost a fair amount of money (15k+) and are willing to pay it to get my father in law here, if not to see his son for the last time or his grandchild for the first. I'm looking for advice on what to do, we really don't know where to turn or how or what to enquire on. Are these private services, are they organised by hospitals, do we just ask the flying doctors. Thank you to anyone who can give me any useful information. Please include sources.
Other - Australia - 2 Answers
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To my knowledge the transfer is organised by the hospital. If you have been told by his doctors that there's absolutely no way that he'll ever be able to get on a commercial flight, I would think the air ambulance would not take on the responsibility of transporting him either. Speak to your own doctor about the situation, he should be able to advice you. Another idea is to enquire at your local senior citizen association, or a social worker at the public hospital in your area.
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Contact the Tasmania Department of Health and Human Services 1300 135 513 they should be able to help you. If you don't get any help there contact Michelle O'Byrne Tasmanian Minister for Health http://www.premier.tas.gov.au/cabinet/michelle_obyrne
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Friday, December 28, 2012
Friday, December 14, 2012
Stop Kafeel system in Saudi Arabia
Stop Kafeel system in Saudi Arabia...?
In Saudi Arabia lot's of nationalities working in different companies, and in different professions, like company employees, have shop, working in hospital as nurse, house maid, driver, labor, and lot's of other professions. But Saudi Kafeel making problems for their employees every time, big problem salaries not paid at right time, asking money to renew work permit, if someone have vacation after his contract again he have to pay money to his Kafeel (employer) so they can Proceed his passport for re-entry visa. My suggestion Saudi govt. have to do something and take all this in his hand so fernier can feel relax during work and save from their crime, specially house maid, they are not paying salary on right time and after all using for their abuse, and bring people on one contract and after that when we are here they show an other contract then what we have to do, no Choice they said you have to sign on this new contract and start work otherwise go back, but who want to go back when someone spent a lot's of money to come over here. Most of Filipino and Indonesian having problems. what you have advice friends? Prince
Saudi Arabia - 2 Answers
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Saudi Arabia is not a democracy, so you don't say or do anything.
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I suggest for you to ask and search for a good kafeel there are many and every where you can find good people and bad as well ask your relatives friends people you know through internet then you can contact him by taking his email or phone number and ask him about everything before you go don't forget to pray always good luck
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In Saudi Arabia lot's of nationalities working in different companies, and in different professions, like company employees, have shop, working in hospital as nurse, house maid, driver, labor, and lot's of other professions. But Saudi Kafeel making problems for their employees every time, big problem salaries not paid at right time, asking money to renew work permit, if someone have vacation after his contract again he have to pay money to his Kafeel (employer) so they can Proceed his passport for re-entry visa. My suggestion Saudi govt. have to do something and take all this in his hand so fernier can feel relax during work and save from their crime, specially house maid, they are not paying salary on right time and after all using for their abuse, and bring people on one contract and after that when we are here they show an other contract then what we have to do, no Choice they said you have to sign on this new contract and start work otherwise go back, but who want to go back when someone spent a lot's of money to come over here. Most of Filipino and Indonesian having problems. what you have advice friends? Prince
Saudi Arabia - 2 Answers
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Saudi Arabia is not a democracy, so you don't say or do anything.
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I suggest for you to ask and search for a good kafeel there are many and every where you can find good people and bad as well ask your relatives friends people you know through internet then you can contact him by taking his email or phone number and ask him about everything before you go don't forget to pray always good luck
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Friday, December 7, 2012
Can I get my US visitor visa
Can I get my US visitor visa?
Hi everyone, Im a registered nurse working full time in Sydney holding permanent residency of Australia and my nationality is Indonesian. Im planning a trip to NYC in November. I have bought the ticket and booked the accommodation. Stupid me, leaving the process of obtaining a visa the last. Now im desperate to get a visitor visa with just 3 weeks time. I have scheduled an interview and gathered all the documents that show that I am a genuine tourist with full intention to come back to Sydney (letters and photos from family and friends, letter from employer, paychecks, bank statements, bills, tax return, superannuation, and my membership of an organization). My question is are these documents enough to get me a visa?Problem is I dont have a car or mortgage and I am a single girl (I might look suspicious). I am very very nervous as I cant cancel the round ticket and the accommodation. Going to NYC is my life long dream too, I would be crushed if I dont get to go. What are my chances?Can anyone advice me what I can do more to increase my chances?Perhaps suggestion of more documents??
Other - United States - 1 Answers
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It looks like you have a steady job, especially in a 'western' country, so I think your chances of being approved a visa is extremely high. The biggest fear the US government has about a foreign visitor is the visitor would overstay the visa and not leave and work as an illegal. I don't see why you want to become an illegal in the US when you're a registered nurse in a free country just like th US.
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Hi everyone, Im a registered nurse working full time in Sydney holding permanent residency of Australia and my nationality is Indonesian. Im planning a trip to NYC in November. I have bought the ticket and booked the accommodation. Stupid me, leaving the process of obtaining a visa the last. Now im desperate to get a visitor visa with just 3 weeks time. I have scheduled an interview and gathered all the documents that show that I am a genuine tourist with full intention to come back to Sydney (letters and photos from family and friends, letter from employer, paychecks, bank statements, bills, tax return, superannuation, and my membership of an organization). My question is are these documents enough to get me a visa?Problem is I dont have a car or mortgage and I am a single girl (I might look suspicious). I am very very nervous as I cant cancel the round ticket and the accommodation. Going to NYC is my life long dream too, I would be crushed if I dont get to go. What are my chances?Can anyone advice me what I can do more to increase my chances?Perhaps suggestion of more documents??
Other - United States - 1 Answers
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It looks like you have a steady job, especially in a 'western' country, so I think your chances of being approved a visa is extremely high. The biggest fear the US government has about a foreign visitor is the visitor would overstay the visa and not leave and work as an illegal. I don't see why you want to become an illegal in the US when you're a registered nurse in a free country just like th US.
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Saturday, December 1, 2012
Where was this, a place like a hospital but a doll shop
Where was this, a place like a hospital but a doll shop!!?
i'm indonesian, i was 8 when i lived in California, but i remember there was a place that looked like an adoption center for dolls, there was abirth room full of dolls and nurses and it aslo sold baby doll clothes n accessories, now that i have a daughter,,id really want to take her there. i remember it was in california and it looked like a small house with storks on the rooftop!!! pls help..i loved that place
Toys - 1 Answers
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Sounds like something with the Cabbage Patch Kids. They had these places back in the 80s
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i'm indonesian, i was 8 when i lived in California, but i remember there was a place that looked like an adoption center for dolls, there was abirth room full of dolls and nurses and it aslo sold baby doll clothes n accessories, now that i have a daughter,,id really want to take her there. i remember it was in california and it looked like a small house with storks on the rooftop!!! pls help..i loved that place
Toys - 1 Answers
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Sounds like something with the Cabbage Patch Kids. They had these places back in the 80s
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Wednesday, November 28, 2012
What happen when female clitoris is removed
What happen when female clitoris is removed?
Indonesia bars doctors from female genital cutting By Achmad Sukarsono Wed Oct 4, 3:49 AM ET JAKARTA (Reuters) - Doctors and nurses in Indonesia, the world's most populous Muslim country, can no longer perform female genital cutting, a senior Health Ministry official said on Wednesday. ADVERTISEMENT Some Indonesian communities encourage parents to cut parts of a newborn daughter's clitoris although the country's Islamic groups are in dispute over such non-therapeutic practices. Sri Hermiyanti, who heads the ministry's family health directorate, said symbolic female circumcisions that do not involve physical damaging of the child still could be carried out. "Hurting, damaging, incising, cutting the clitoris are not allowed. These acts violate the reproductive rights of these girls and harm their organs," said the doctor, adding the announcement has been circulated to health workers since April.
Singles & Dating - 9 Answers
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Nothing happens aside from pain and risk of possible infection....*cries*
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From what I have heard all pleasurable sensation is lost and sex becomes very painful. It might as well be as bad as a man getting his balls cut off.
3 :
Same thing as would happen if you muslims had your balls removed
4 :
Removing the clitoris would prevent the female from ever being able to achieve clitoral orgasm, bit like cutting of a mans penis. Women do however have other means of achieving orgasm, both vaginal and Gspot, these are a lot more elusive for most women though, some never have anything other than clitoral. Female cirucsicion is cruel and masochistic and should be outlawed worldwide, it serves no purpose other than to deny a women sexual pleasure
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Same as when a man has his penis cut off....
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GOSH! I HOPE I NEVER FIND OUT!
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Any genital cutting or slicing should be illegal male or female(Except for religious reasons). It is just as bad to circumcise a boy as it is a girl because they serve the same purpose. Nothing. Around the world, people think that it is disgusting when they hear about an uncircumcised male but jump to ban female circumcisions.
8 :
The woman loses the ability to achieve orgasm. Some women can achieve orgasm through penetration alone but it is not common. A lot of times, when this has been performed, it is not in a sterile environment which puts the woman at great risk of infection. These infections have been known to be so bad at times that women's entire wombs have basically collapsed and had it not been for foreign aide doctors checking these women, many may have died so I am sure that many do. Infections can cause all sorts of complications are painful and can make a woman extremely sick.
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female circumsion is worse than male circumcision - it causes a lot of scar tissue so any sexual activities not only prevents any pleasure but can actually be extremely painful. One of the reasons for female circumcision is that it prevents a woman from cheating on her husband, because due to the pain they wouldnt want sex anyway. Other myths are that the clitoris poisins the baby.
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Indonesia bars doctors from female genital cutting By Achmad Sukarsono Wed Oct 4, 3:49 AM ET JAKARTA (Reuters) - Doctors and nurses in Indonesia, the world's most populous Muslim country, can no longer perform female genital cutting, a senior Health Ministry official said on Wednesday. ADVERTISEMENT Some Indonesian communities encourage parents to cut parts of a newborn daughter's clitoris although the country's Islamic groups are in dispute over such non-therapeutic practices. Sri Hermiyanti, who heads the ministry's family health directorate, said symbolic female circumcisions that do not involve physical damaging of the child still could be carried out. "Hurting, damaging, incising, cutting the clitoris are not allowed. These acts violate the reproductive rights of these girls and harm their organs," said the doctor, adding the announcement has been circulated to health workers since April.
Singles & Dating - 9 Answers
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Nothing happens aside from pain and risk of possible infection....*cries*
2 :
From what I have heard all pleasurable sensation is lost and sex becomes very painful. It might as well be as bad as a man getting his balls cut off.
3 :
Same thing as would happen if you muslims had your balls removed
4 :
Removing the clitoris would prevent the female from ever being able to achieve clitoral orgasm, bit like cutting of a mans penis. Women do however have other means of achieving orgasm, both vaginal and Gspot, these are a lot more elusive for most women though, some never have anything other than clitoral. Female cirucsicion is cruel and masochistic and should be outlawed worldwide, it serves no purpose other than to deny a women sexual pleasure
5 :
Same as when a man has his penis cut off....
6 :
GOSH! I HOPE I NEVER FIND OUT!
7 :
Any genital cutting or slicing should be illegal male or female(Except for religious reasons). It is just as bad to circumcise a boy as it is a girl because they serve the same purpose. Nothing. Around the world, people think that it is disgusting when they hear about an uncircumcised male but jump to ban female circumcisions.
8 :
The woman loses the ability to achieve orgasm. Some women can achieve orgasm through penetration alone but it is not common. A lot of times, when this has been performed, it is not in a sterile environment which puts the woman at great risk of infection. These infections have been known to be so bad at times that women's entire wombs have basically collapsed and had it not been for foreign aide doctors checking these women, many may have died so I am sure that many do. Infections can cause all sorts of complications are painful and can make a woman extremely sick.
9 :
female circumsion is worse than male circumcision - it causes a lot of scar tissue so any sexual activities not only prevents any pleasure but can actually be extremely painful. One of the reasons for female circumcision is that it prevents a woman from cheating on her husband, because due to the pain they wouldnt want sex anyway. Other myths are that the clitoris poisins the baby.
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Wednesday, November 14, 2012
Where was this, a place like a hospital but a doll shop
Where was this, a place like a hospital but a doll shop!!?
i'm indonesian, i was 8 when i lived in California, but i remember there was a place that looked like an adoption center for dolls, there was abirth room full of dolls and nurses and it aslo sold baby doll clothes n accessories, now that i have a daughter,,id really want to take her there. i remember it was in california and it looked like a small house with storks on the rooftop!!! pls help..i loved that place
Toys - 1 Answers
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Sounds like something with the Cabbage Patch Kids. They had these places back in the 80s
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i'm indonesian, i was 8 when i lived in California, but i remember there was a place that looked like an adoption center for dolls, there was abirth room full of dolls and nurses and it aslo sold baby doll clothes n accessories, now that i have a daughter,,id really want to take her there. i remember it was in california and it looked like a small house with storks on the rooftop!!! pls help..i loved that place
Toys - 1 Answers
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Sounds like something with the Cabbage Patch Kids. They had these places back in the 80s
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Wednesday, November 7, 2012
What happen when female clitoris is removed
What happen when female clitoris is removed?
Indonesia bars doctors from female genital cutting By Achmad Sukarsono Wed Oct 4, 3:49 AM ET JAKARTA (Reuters) - Doctors and nurses in Indonesia, the world's most populous Muslim country, can no longer perform female genital cutting, a senior Health Ministry official said on Wednesday. ADVERTISEMENT Some Indonesian communities encourage parents to cut parts of a newborn daughter's clitoris although the country's Islamic groups are in dispute over such non-therapeutic practices. Sri Hermiyanti, who heads the ministry's family health directorate, said symbolic female circumcisions that do not involve physical damaging of the child still could be carried out. "Hurting, damaging, incising, cutting the clitoris are not allowed. These acts violate the reproductive rights of these girls and harm their organs," said the doctor, adding the announcement has been circulated to health workers since April.
Singles & Dating - 9 Answers
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1 :
Nothing happens aside from pain and risk of possible infection....*cries*
2 :
From what I have heard all pleasurable sensation is lost and sex becomes very painful. It might as well be as bad as a man getting his balls cut off.
3 :
Same thing as would happen if you muslims had your balls removed
4 :
Removing the clitoris would prevent the female from ever being able to achieve clitoral orgasm, bit like cutting of a mans penis. Women do however have other means of achieving orgasm, both vaginal and Gspot, these are a lot more elusive for most women though, some never have anything other than clitoral. Female cirucsicion is cruel and masochistic and should be outlawed worldwide, it serves no purpose other than to deny a women sexual pleasure
5 :
Same as when a man has his penis cut off....
6 :
GOSH! I HOPE I NEVER FIND OUT!
7 :
Any genital cutting or slicing should be illegal male or female(Except for religious reasons). It is just as bad to circumcise a boy as it is a girl because they serve the same purpose. Nothing. Around the world, people think that it is disgusting when they hear about an uncircumcised male but jump to ban female circumcisions.
8 :
The woman loses the ability to achieve orgasm. Some women can achieve orgasm through penetration alone but it is not common. A lot of times, when this has been performed, it is not in a sterile environment which puts the woman at great risk of infection. These infections have been known to be so bad at times that women's entire wombs have basically collapsed and had it not been for foreign aide doctors checking these women, many may have died so I am sure that many do. Infections can cause all sorts of complications are painful and can make a woman extremely sick.
9 :
female circumsion is worse than male circumcision - it causes a lot of scar tissue so any sexual activities not only prevents any pleasure but can actually be extremely painful. One of the reasons for female circumcision is that it prevents a woman from cheating on her husband, because due to the pain they wouldnt want sex anyway. Other myths are that the clitoris poisins the baby.
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Indonesia bars doctors from female genital cutting By Achmad Sukarsono Wed Oct 4, 3:49 AM ET JAKARTA (Reuters) - Doctors and nurses in Indonesia, the world's most populous Muslim country, can no longer perform female genital cutting, a senior Health Ministry official said on Wednesday. ADVERTISEMENT Some Indonesian communities encourage parents to cut parts of a newborn daughter's clitoris although the country's Islamic groups are in dispute over such non-therapeutic practices. Sri Hermiyanti, who heads the ministry's family health directorate, said symbolic female circumcisions that do not involve physical damaging of the child still could be carried out. "Hurting, damaging, incising, cutting the clitoris are not allowed. These acts violate the reproductive rights of these girls and harm their organs," said the doctor, adding the announcement has been circulated to health workers since April.
Singles & Dating - 9 Answers
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1 :
Nothing happens aside from pain and risk of possible infection....*cries*
2 :
From what I have heard all pleasurable sensation is lost and sex becomes very painful. It might as well be as bad as a man getting his balls cut off.
3 :
Same thing as would happen if you muslims had your balls removed
4 :
Removing the clitoris would prevent the female from ever being able to achieve clitoral orgasm, bit like cutting of a mans penis. Women do however have other means of achieving orgasm, both vaginal and Gspot, these are a lot more elusive for most women though, some never have anything other than clitoral. Female cirucsicion is cruel and masochistic and should be outlawed worldwide, it serves no purpose other than to deny a women sexual pleasure
5 :
Same as when a man has his penis cut off....
6 :
GOSH! I HOPE I NEVER FIND OUT!
7 :
Any genital cutting or slicing should be illegal male or female(Except for religious reasons). It is just as bad to circumcise a boy as it is a girl because they serve the same purpose. Nothing. Around the world, people think that it is disgusting when they hear about an uncircumcised male but jump to ban female circumcisions.
8 :
The woman loses the ability to achieve orgasm. Some women can achieve orgasm through penetration alone but it is not common. A lot of times, when this has been performed, it is not in a sterile environment which puts the woman at great risk of infection. These infections have been known to be so bad at times that women's entire wombs have basically collapsed and had it not been for foreign aide doctors checking these women, many may have died so I am sure that many do. Infections can cause all sorts of complications are painful and can make a woman extremely sick.
9 :
female circumsion is worse than male circumcision - it causes a lot of scar tissue so any sexual activities not only prevents any pleasure but can actually be extremely painful. One of the reasons for female circumcision is that it prevents a woman from cheating on her husband, because due to the pain they wouldnt want sex anyway. Other myths are that the clitoris poisins the baby.
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Thursday, November 1, 2012
Ms Aileen Therese Alova , a nursing personnel of Philippines Govt. I am a Doctor . Anyone can help me
Ms Aileen Therese Alova , a nursing personnel of Philippines Govt. I am a Doctor . Anyone can help me ?
In 1997 I met her in Jakarta in F P seminer . She is like my daughter . I have lost her address. At that time she was a Staff nurse in any Govt. Hospital in Philippines , Can you help me ?
Family - 4 Answers
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Have you tried to contact the hospital in the Philippines? Maybe leave your info. Is she american or philipino. Do you know if they have a nurses union. If so maybe you can contact them and ask if they could forward a message. Good Luck I hope you find her.
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I am married to her. Why are you asking about her? She now lives in California.
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there are a lot of nurses in the Philippines and a lot of govt hospitals. is she in manila? you can contact the govt hospitals and inquire about her. for sure, they have the company records. goodluck! :)
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She have migrated already. Did you know what hospital??
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In 1997 I met her in Jakarta in F P seminer . She is like my daughter . I have lost her address. At that time she was a Staff nurse in any Govt. Hospital in Philippines , Can you help me ?
Family - 4 Answers
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Have you tried to contact the hospital in the Philippines? Maybe leave your info. Is she american or philipino. Do you know if they have a nurses union. If so maybe you can contact them and ask if they could forward a message. Good Luck I hope you find her.
2 :
I am married to her. Why are you asking about her? She now lives in California.
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there are a lot of nurses in the Philippines and a lot of govt hospitals. is she in manila? you can contact the govt hospitals and inquire about her. for sure, they have the company records. goodluck! :)
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She have migrated already. Did you know what hospital??
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Sunday, October 28, 2012
Advice for a part-time model
Advice for a part-time model?
Hi, I'm 19, a sophomore art/photography major in college, and putting myself through school with loans and some modeling gigs on the side. I've surprised myself with how mI've managed to act/comport myself so professionally at such a young age and its really boosted my confidence. But I am currently scheduled to do my first nude shoot. It is with a local artistic photographer whose work I know well enough that I DO trust that the shoot will be artistic/tasteful, that the images wont be sold except in his art gallery, etc etc. But I'm still scared out of my wits. I know posing for artistic nudes comes with the job description, and I know need to grow up and get used to being a model--which isn't always nothing but glamerous/fun shoots (just as a nurse can't choose not to change bedpans, models have to, well, model haha). But that doesn't make me any less freaked out. No guys have ever really seen me naked. Heck I've gotten freaked out just with having to change and be fitted for dresses in big ol busy rooms for fashion shoots etc.....so posing solo in the buff has me scared crapless. I know it isn't professional to back out on a gig last minute, and I know that gigs like this come with the territory, and I know I can trust this photographer.....so it isn't any of that. I just am scared. And want advice and perspective.
Psychology - 2 Answers
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hey see www.moneyjobz.com for this. you'll see the links specificly about this on the left and the right side so you dont have to go and search everywhere Source(s): searched and visited personally.
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If you're not comfortable with something, don't do it. But you seem as if you want to, so start by thinking about what makes you so nervous. Is it just the fact that nobody has ever really seen your body before? Is it a self-confidence issue? Either way, just tell yourself that you're going to do it and you have nothing to worry about it, and everything will be fine.
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Hi, I'm 19, a sophomore art/photography major in college, and putting myself through school with loans and some modeling gigs on the side. I've surprised myself with how mI've managed to act/comport myself so professionally at such a young age and its really boosted my confidence. But I am currently scheduled to do my first nude shoot. It is with a local artistic photographer whose work I know well enough that I DO trust that the shoot will be artistic/tasteful, that the images wont be sold except in his art gallery, etc etc. But I'm still scared out of my wits. I know posing for artistic nudes comes with the job description, and I know need to grow up and get used to being a model--which isn't always nothing but glamerous/fun shoots (just as a nurse can't choose not to change bedpans, models have to, well, model haha). But that doesn't make me any less freaked out. No guys have ever really seen me naked. Heck I've gotten freaked out just with having to change and be fitted for dresses in big ol busy rooms for fashion shoots etc.....so posing solo in the buff has me scared crapless. I know it isn't professional to back out on a gig last minute, and I know that gigs like this come with the territory, and I know I can trust this photographer.....so it isn't any of that. I just am scared. And want advice and perspective.
Psychology - 2 Answers
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hey see www.moneyjobz.com for this. you'll see the links specificly about this on the left and the right side so you dont have to go and search everywhere Source(s): searched and visited personally.
2 :
If you're not comfortable with something, don't do it. But you seem as if you want to, so start by thinking about what makes you so nervous. Is it just the fact that nobody has ever really seen your body before? Is it a self-confidence issue? Either way, just tell yourself that you're going to do it and you have nothing to worry about it, and everything will be fine.
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Sunday, October 14, 2012
Advice for a part time model
Advice for a part time model.?
Hi, I'm 19, a sophomore art/photography major in college, and putting myself through school with loans and some modeling gigs on the side. I've surprised myself with how many gigs I've been able to get so fast, and how I've managed to act/comport myself so professionally at such a young age. Its really boosted my confidence. But I am currently scheduled to do my first nude shoot. It is with a local artistic photographer whose work I know well enough that I DO trust that the shoot will be artistic/tasteful, that the images wont be sold except in his art gallery, etc etc. But I'm still scared out of my wits. I know posing for artistic nudes comes with the job description, and I know need to grow up and get used to being a model--which isn't always nothing but glamerous/fun shoots (just as a nurse can't choose not to change bedpans, models have to, well, model haha). But that doesn't make me any less freaked out. No guys have ever really seen me naked. Heck I've gotten freaked out just with having to change and be fitted for dresses in big ol busy rooms for fashion shoots etc.....so posing solo in the buff has me scared crapless. I know it isn't professional to back out on a gig last minute, and I know that gigs like this come with the territory, and I know I can trust this photographer.....so it isn't any of that. I just am scared. And want advice and perspective.
Family - 5 Answers
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Posing nude does not come with the job description. A majority of models don't do nudes. If you decide to, that's your business. But remember what happens if you become successful - those photos will surface and can cost you your career.
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Don't do it if you are scared or uncomfortable. When you have more experience under your belt then you can consider it. Who is pressuring you if anyone. I would just tell the photographer that you are just not ready to do it. If it means no more modeling gigs with this photographer, find someone else.
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don't do it
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The things that frighten you the most will often unfold to be the greatest experiences in your life, you have to be in it to win it.
5 :
OK don't get me wrong here. I enjoy the female form as much as anyone else. I would just as certainly advocate for you to pose nude if I thought you were really ready for that. But where is it written that you MUST pose nude? Whose rule book are you following here? I live in Toronto, and there are tons of talent, and modelling agencies. In my capacity as a security consultant, I have been in more than one of the very top modelling agencies offices and have overheard the agents tell their prospective clients to remove the nude shots from their portfolios, on more than one occasion. Furthermore, if you have worked as a model in the past, and have gotten a satisfactory number of gigs, then for what reason do you think it is now necessary to add posing nude to your resume' at this juncture? I agree, it is bad form to back out of a professional obligation. But if you can't separate your personal feelings from your work, then you aren't ready for this. I don't know what your agreement is with this photographer. But if you aren't carefull, once the shutter on his camera has clicked, then the picture is probably his property, and that may be until the end of all time, and you may not have any control over how he decides to use those pictures. Maybe you are right, you do need to grow up. But part of growing up doesn't require you to place yourself in a position where you are vulnerable, or can be taken advantage of. Maybe gigs like this do come with the territory. But so does your right to refuse to do things you don't want. I recommend that you call this photographer NOW, and sincerely tell him how sorry you are to cancel, but you aren't ready for posing nude for anyone. One last thing. You say your confidence has taken a boost. I'll bet that is with good reason. You are probably a very attractive young woman. If you really are more confident, then let this be your most serious test of that. If you were worth having there for modelling with clothing on before this, then you will be just as worthwhile having for future gigs without posing nude. You just have to be confident enough in yourself to know that. Good Luck! :-)
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Hi, I'm 19, a sophomore art/photography major in college, and putting myself through school with loans and some modeling gigs on the side. I've surprised myself with how many gigs I've been able to get so fast, and how I've managed to act/comport myself so professionally at such a young age. Its really boosted my confidence. But I am currently scheduled to do my first nude shoot. It is with a local artistic photographer whose work I know well enough that I DO trust that the shoot will be artistic/tasteful, that the images wont be sold except in his art gallery, etc etc. But I'm still scared out of my wits. I know posing for artistic nudes comes with the job description, and I know need to grow up and get used to being a model--which isn't always nothing but glamerous/fun shoots (just as a nurse can't choose not to change bedpans, models have to, well, model haha). But that doesn't make me any less freaked out. No guys have ever really seen me naked. Heck I've gotten freaked out just with having to change and be fitted for dresses in big ol busy rooms for fashion shoots etc.....so posing solo in the buff has me scared crapless. I know it isn't professional to back out on a gig last minute, and I know that gigs like this come with the territory, and I know I can trust this photographer.....so it isn't any of that. I just am scared. And want advice and perspective.
Family - 5 Answers
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1 :
Posing nude does not come with the job description. A majority of models don't do nudes. If you decide to, that's your business. But remember what happens if you become successful - those photos will surface and can cost you your career.
2 :
Don't do it if you are scared or uncomfortable. When you have more experience under your belt then you can consider it. Who is pressuring you if anyone. I would just tell the photographer that you are just not ready to do it. If it means no more modeling gigs with this photographer, find someone else.
3 :
don't do it
4 :
The things that frighten you the most will often unfold to be the greatest experiences in your life, you have to be in it to win it.
5 :
OK don't get me wrong here. I enjoy the female form as much as anyone else. I would just as certainly advocate for you to pose nude if I thought you were really ready for that. But where is it written that you MUST pose nude? Whose rule book are you following here? I live in Toronto, and there are tons of talent, and modelling agencies. In my capacity as a security consultant, I have been in more than one of the very top modelling agencies offices and have overheard the agents tell their prospective clients to remove the nude shots from their portfolios, on more than one occasion. Furthermore, if you have worked as a model in the past, and have gotten a satisfactory number of gigs, then for what reason do you think it is now necessary to add posing nude to your resume' at this juncture? I agree, it is bad form to back out of a professional obligation. But if you can't separate your personal feelings from your work, then you aren't ready for this. I don't know what your agreement is with this photographer. But if you aren't carefull, once the shutter on his camera has clicked, then the picture is probably his property, and that may be until the end of all time, and you may not have any control over how he decides to use those pictures. Maybe you are right, you do need to grow up. But part of growing up doesn't require you to place yourself in a position where you are vulnerable, or can be taken advantage of. Maybe gigs like this do come with the territory. But so does your right to refuse to do things you don't want. I recommend that you call this photographer NOW, and sincerely tell him how sorry you are to cancel, but you aren't ready for posing nude for anyone. One last thing. You say your confidence has taken a boost. I'll bet that is with good reason. You are probably a very attractive young woman. If you really are more confident, then let this be your most serious test of that. If you were worth having there for modelling with clothing on before this, then you will be just as worthwhile having for future gigs without posing nude. You just have to be confident enough in yourself to know that. Good Luck! :-)
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Sunday, October 7, 2012
What kind of musical group (choir or symphonic band) comes to mind with this name, "Hymns for Him"
What kind of musical group (choir or symphonic band) comes to mind with this name, "Hymns for Him"?
I'm researching to help start up a group of band students in middle school and high school to play as small ensembles, (like duets, trios, quartets..etc.) solos, and actually band pieces at my church and maybe a nearby nursing home. We'd play hymns and church-appropriate songs. This is just the beginning of everything! :) I was thinking of the name for this group to be Hymns for Him, but I'm thinking it may sound more like a choir group rather than a symphonic band. Thank you :)
Performing Arts - 2 Answers
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Yes, it does sound more like a choir name.
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Yes it does. How about Winds for Him?
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I'm researching to help start up a group of band students in middle school and high school to play as small ensembles, (like duets, trios, quartets..etc.) solos, and actually band pieces at my church and maybe a nearby nursing home. We'd play hymns and church-appropriate songs. This is just the beginning of everything! :) I was thinking of the name for this group to be Hymns for Him, but I'm thinking it may sound more like a choir group rather than a symphonic band. Thank you :)
Performing Arts - 2 Answers
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Yes, it does sound more like a choir name.
2 :
Yes it does. How about Winds for Him?
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Monday, October 1, 2012
Is he treting me unfairly
Is he treting me unfairly?
Been engaged for 2 years to a man who has serious financial obligations to his ex and children. I like his kids but feel as though I can no longer pay half of our household bills, he makes about 4 times what I do. I'm a full time student and I work but it is not enough money. I'm tired of being left alone untill 10 every night. For the last year I took care of his elderly father who recently went into a nursing home- because I'm no longer doing this he says he can no longer subsidize my cell phone and 40 buck a week health insurance. I know his kids come first but should he cut me a break on the cell phone and insurance untill I finish school in 2 years? I feel as though 100 percent of my income is going to our house. I have a child who lives with us that I support entirely but with my income I cant subsidize his kids to. He pays there rent, tuition, books, utilities on apartment, and the ex 2200 a month- altogether he pays out about 65,000 a year which leaves us with little and my child really poor. Should I move into a cheap affordable appartment and go solo? Before you bash me and say we are not married keep in mind I pay half the house expenses on a house that I dont own and never will also I spent the last year taking care of an 86 year old man with alzheimers his father and it was not easy. I'm really glad his kids have no struggles financially but mine does.
Marriage & Divorce - 4 Answers
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You are a doormat. Move on.
2 :
Well that's weird that he has to pay so much money, i mean.. is ok to have to pay child support and alimony which is required if they were married for a long time.. talk to him and let him know he has other responsibilities but if thats the money he is required to pay .. deal with it, when you get with a men with kids you need to be strong enough to deal with all the problems that come with it.. and if you dont want to go through this.. then leave him.
3 :
is your child his? if not he still has his own obligation sorry that doesnt leave much to u
4 :
you really did get the short end of the stick on this one . . . sorry but he's not thinking clearly or fairly
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Been engaged for 2 years to a man who has serious financial obligations to his ex and children. I like his kids but feel as though I can no longer pay half of our household bills, he makes about 4 times what I do. I'm a full time student and I work but it is not enough money. I'm tired of being left alone untill 10 every night. For the last year I took care of his elderly father who recently went into a nursing home- because I'm no longer doing this he says he can no longer subsidize my cell phone and 40 buck a week health insurance. I know his kids come first but should he cut me a break on the cell phone and insurance untill I finish school in 2 years? I feel as though 100 percent of my income is going to our house. I have a child who lives with us that I support entirely but with my income I cant subsidize his kids to. He pays there rent, tuition, books, utilities on apartment, and the ex 2200 a month- altogether he pays out about 65,000 a year which leaves us with little and my child really poor. Should I move into a cheap affordable appartment and go solo? Before you bash me and say we are not married keep in mind I pay half the house expenses on a house that I dont own and never will also I spent the last year taking care of an 86 year old man with alzheimers his father and it was not easy. I'm really glad his kids have no struggles financially but mine does.
Marriage & Divorce - 4 Answers
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You are a doormat. Move on.
2 :
Well that's weird that he has to pay so much money, i mean.. is ok to have to pay child support and alimony which is required if they were married for a long time.. talk to him and let him know he has other responsibilities but if thats the money he is required to pay .. deal with it, when you get with a men with kids you need to be strong enough to deal with all the problems that come with it.. and if you dont want to go through this.. then leave him.
3 :
is your child his? if not he still has his own obligation sorry that doesnt leave much to u
4 :
you really did get the short end of the stick on this one . . . sorry but he's not thinking clearly or fairly
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Friday, September 28, 2012
I just need to vent. Tell me if im being neurotic and over reacting... Am I making the right choice
I just need to vent. Tell me if im being neurotic and over reacting... Am I making the right choice?
I am finally seriuly thinking about leaving my live in boyfriend of 4 years. Tonight was the last straw. He told me yesterday that he might go out with one of the reps at his company at some big bar for this guys b-day... he wanted to "role solo", in his words.. cool with me, we see each other every day. But he told me today he does not really want to go, and he probably won't. I go to work out, and im gone for 30 minutes and he is gone. No note, no nothing! I call him and he tells me he woke up from his nap and just decided he was bored and he wanted to go to the bar. Fine by me.. although I was a little ticked at the fact that he could not even tell me goodbye, he knew where I was! At the apartment complex gym! He told me he will be home in and hour or 2 (at 6pm). He has a problem with liquor, so now all he does is beer, but he drank liquor for the first time last night in a while... maybe opened up pandoras box? because normally when he is just doing beer he is home soon, but it is now almost midnight and no sign of him. Not even a phone call, or a text message. I have called him numerous times becuase I am worried about him drinking and driving, but he does not answer and does not call me back. I text him and told him that I am pretty much done. I have been dealing with this crap for a while. I have gained a little weight that I am trying to work off, and he is on this kick that I need to weigh 118 lbs, and I am 5'8! I want to be at 130, but he disagrees. I work part time because I am a full time student trying to get accepted into nursing school, and a lot of the times he tells me whenever we have an argument that I bring nothing to the table because I make less than him. He also tells me that he can do better than me and that when he goes out alone, he has attractive, successful girls hitting on him all the time and he wonders why he is with me. Never appologies because somehow I brought it on myself... That is why I am so pissed that he is not answering his phone now! I have no trust in him. I am not even attracted to him. When he wants to be intimate, he will say stuff like "put ur lips around my cock", or "i wanna tare that pussy up"... just stuff that is not even romantic. It is hard to even lay in the bed with him without him trying to grope me and say "Oooh, I love your tits!!! Wanna fuck?"!!!!!! Ugh! I live 8 hours away from my family so the only thing that is holding me back is the drive, and the fact that I have 2 lovely cats that I cannot take with me. We can't even really sit down and talk without having an argument. I feel like I have to agree with everything he says or I will get made to feel like shit. I am just an angry bitch right now! Also, I recently cosigned on a truck for him becuase his credit is shit. And now that is hanging over my head. He is not physically abusive, just not mentally attached to me it seems. Whenever I have a bad day at work, and want to talk about it, there are times where he will say stuff like "Your day does not compare with mine.. I have real problems, you work part time, how big can your problems be?" He does not like my family really because they don't have much money, therefor he does not think they are worth shit to him because they aren't in the position to help us out, and in his eyes becuase I am the one bringing him down, they should send lots of money. I go to school 14 credit hours. I did work a full time job that allowed me to do my homework on the job, but because I was not busy enough at my job he basically made me feel so bad about it that I quit. The economy is so bad that the only thing I have been able to find is part time, so I filled the rest of my time with classes, so now I am stuck until May when the classes are over. Then sometimes he will say "Just work on getting your ursgin degree, that is how you can help us out the most"... My head is just spinning right now. I am at a crossroads. I don't know what to say to reach him, and make him feel as if my opinions and feelings matter...
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1 :
I am sorry that I barely found this article, I am big fan of reading about real problems rather then one liners that people put on there so here is my two cents, but hopefully you won't need this and you will be able to go on with your life HAPPILY! First the alcohol, that is a problem and him not drinking is something he knows is an addiction, that sucks because when the first drink comes its over. It becomes the next drink and then the next drink. Before you know it, it has become the addiction all over again. Verbal Abuse... Your confidence will be nothing very soon. Absolutely nothing. This type of abuse reminds me of a southern movie or something about a woman coming to empowerment. The reason I say that is because you are no longer treated as a princess or even loved like one. I am a male and trust me I have my cravings. Not every part of intercourse is making love HOWEVER every time you both do this, its not even close. Every time he is living a porno with foul language. Your body is sacred and special... He does not respect you in the least bit, he believes that you are well beneath him. (There to SERVICE to him.) For what ever reason, to boost up his ego, to make himself feel superior, or just to be the so called "Man" either the case it is wrong. Plane and simple wrong. You are worth way more then what you are given credit for. You are the submissive person in the relationship and usually there is nothing wrong with that. Having to dominate people often times creates greater conflict but can be very fun at the same time. Your case he has beat you down so far that you words shocked me. " I feel like I have to agree with everything he says or I will get made to feel like ****." So you are saying that its totally ok not to have an opinion any longer, you are saying as living person you can't think for yourself. He is selfish, he is unappreciative. I promise you this will escalate even though you say that there is no physical abuse, but trust me there is. Abuse is present. I am sure you are thinking about his good qualities to justify him. But all you are doing is saying that it is ok. I am sure things started out great, love etc... They do not exist any longer. Finally, your question... Is there a way to reach out to him? Yes, leave... That's the only way he will understand the severity of the issue. You need take accountability because at this point you have said that its ok for him to tell you all of these horrible things and at this point you are changing your ways where this type of behavior is not going to be tolerated! (Accountability is means to understand where failed, however this isn't justifying his actions by any means.) Good luck and you are welcome to email me at anytime as a friend to talk to. ADAM
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I am finally seriuly thinking about leaving my live in boyfriend of 4 years. Tonight was the last straw. He told me yesterday that he might go out with one of the reps at his company at some big bar for this guys b-day... he wanted to "role solo", in his words.. cool with me, we see each other every day. But he told me today he does not really want to go, and he probably won't. I go to work out, and im gone for 30 minutes and he is gone. No note, no nothing! I call him and he tells me he woke up from his nap and just decided he was bored and he wanted to go to the bar. Fine by me.. although I was a little ticked at the fact that he could not even tell me goodbye, he knew where I was! At the apartment complex gym! He told me he will be home in and hour or 2 (at 6pm). He has a problem with liquor, so now all he does is beer, but he drank liquor for the first time last night in a while... maybe opened up pandoras box? because normally when he is just doing beer he is home soon, but it is now almost midnight and no sign of him. Not even a phone call, or a text message. I have called him numerous times becuase I am worried about him drinking and driving, but he does not answer and does not call me back. I text him and told him that I am pretty much done. I have been dealing with this crap for a while. I have gained a little weight that I am trying to work off, and he is on this kick that I need to weigh 118 lbs, and I am 5'8! I want to be at 130, but he disagrees. I work part time because I am a full time student trying to get accepted into nursing school, and a lot of the times he tells me whenever we have an argument that I bring nothing to the table because I make less than him. He also tells me that he can do better than me and that when he goes out alone, he has attractive, successful girls hitting on him all the time and he wonders why he is with me. Never appologies because somehow I brought it on myself... That is why I am so pissed that he is not answering his phone now! I have no trust in him. I am not even attracted to him. When he wants to be intimate, he will say stuff like "put ur lips around my cock", or "i wanna tare that pussy up"... just stuff that is not even romantic. It is hard to even lay in the bed with him without him trying to grope me and say "Oooh, I love your tits!!! Wanna fuck?"!!!!!! Ugh! I live 8 hours away from my family so the only thing that is holding me back is the drive, and the fact that I have 2 lovely cats that I cannot take with me. We can't even really sit down and talk without having an argument. I feel like I have to agree with everything he says or I will get made to feel like shit. I am just an angry bitch right now! Also, I recently cosigned on a truck for him becuase his credit is shit. And now that is hanging over my head. He is not physically abusive, just not mentally attached to me it seems. Whenever I have a bad day at work, and want to talk about it, there are times where he will say stuff like "Your day does not compare with mine.. I have real problems, you work part time, how big can your problems be?" He does not like my family really because they don't have much money, therefor he does not think they are worth shit to him because they aren't in the position to help us out, and in his eyes becuase I am the one bringing him down, they should send lots of money. I go to school 14 credit hours. I did work a full time job that allowed me to do my homework on the job, but because I was not busy enough at my job he basically made me feel so bad about it that I quit. The economy is so bad that the only thing I have been able to find is part time, so I filled the rest of my time with classes, so now I am stuck until May when the classes are over. Then sometimes he will say "Just work on getting your ursgin degree, that is how you can help us out the most"... My head is just spinning right now. I am at a crossroads. I don't know what to say to reach him, and make him feel as if my opinions and feelings matter...
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1 :
I am sorry that I barely found this article, I am big fan of reading about real problems rather then one liners that people put on there so here is my two cents, but hopefully you won't need this and you will be able to go on with your life HAPPILY! First the alcohol, that is a problem and him not drinking is something he knows is an addiction, that sucks because when the first drink comes its over. It becomes the next drink and then the next drink. Before you know it, it has become the addiction all over again. Verbal Abuse... Your confidence will be nothing very soon. Absolutely nothing. This type of abuse reminds me of a southern movie or something about a woman coming to empowerment. The reason I say that is because you are no longer treated as a princess or even loved like one. I am a male and trust me I have my cravings. Not every part of intercourse is making love HOWEVER every time you both do this, its not even close. Every time he is living a porno with foul language. Your body is sacred and special... He does not respect you in the least bit, he believes that you are well beneath him. (There to SERVICE to him.) For what ever reason, to boost up his ego, to make himself feel superior, or just to be the so called "Man" either the case it is wrong. Plane and simple wrong. You are worth way more then what you are given credit for. You are the submissive person in the relationship and usually there is nothing wrong with that. Having to dominate people often times creates greater conflict but can be very fun at the same time. Your case he has beat you down so far that you words shocked me. " I feel like I have to agree with everything he says or I will get made to feel like ****." So you are saying that its totally ok not to have an opinion any longer, you are saying as living person you can't think for yourself. He is selfish, he is unappreciative. I promise you this will escalate even though you say that there is no physical abuse, but trust me there is. Abuse is present. I am sure you are thinking about his good qualities to justify him. But all you are doing is saying that it is ok. I am sure things started out great, love etc... They do not exist any longer. Finally, your question... Is there a way to reach out to him? Yes, leave... That's the only way he will understand the severity of the issue. You need take accountability because at this point you have said that its ok for him to tell you all of these horrible things and at this point you are changing your ways where this type of behavior is not going to be tolerated! (Accountability is means to understand where failed, however this isn't justifying his actions by any means.) Good luck and you are welcome to email me at anytime as a friend to talk to. ADAM
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Friday, September 14, 2012
I just need to vent. Tell me if im being neurotic and over reacting... Am I making the right choice
I just need to vent. Tell me if im being neurotic and over reacting... Am I making the right choice?
I am finally seriuly thinking about leaving my live in boyfriend of 4 years. Tonight was the last straw. He told me yesterday that he might go out with one of the reps at his company at some big bar for this guys b-day... he wanted to "role solo", in his words.. cool with me, we see each other every day. But he told me today he does not really want to go, and he probably won't. I go to work out, and im gone for 30 minutes and he is gone. No note, no nothing! I call him and he tells me he woke up from his nap and just decided he was bored and he wanted to go to the bar. Fine by me.. although I was a little ticked at the fact that he could not even tell me goodbye, he knew where I was! At the apartment complex gym! He told me he will be home in and hour or 2 (at 6pm). He has a problem with liquor, so now all he does is beer, but he drank liquor for the first time last night in a while... maybe opened up pandoras box? because normally when he is just doing beer he is home soon, but it is now almost midnight and no sign of him. Not even a phone call, or a text message. I have called him numerous times becuase I am worried about him drinking and driving, but he does not answer and does not call me back. I text him and told him that I am pretty much done. I have been dealing with this crap for a while. I have gained a little weight that I am trying to work off, and he is on this kick that I need to weigh 118 lbs, and I am 5'8! I want to be at 130, but he disagrees. I work part time because I am a full time student trying to get accepted into nursing school, and a lot of the times he tells me whenever we have an argument that I bring nothing to the table because I make less than him. He also tells me that he can do better than me and that when he goes out alone, he has attractive, successful girls hitting on him all the time and he wonders why he is with me. Never appologies because somehow I brought it on myself... That is why I am so pissed that he is not answering his phone now! I have no trust in him. I am not even attracted to him. When he wants to be intimate, he will say stuff like "put ur lips around my cock", or "i wanna tare that pussy up"... just stuff that is not even romantic. It is hard to even lay in the bed with him without him trying to grope me and say "Oooh, I love your tits!!! Wanna fuck?"!!!!!! Ugh! I live 8 hours away from my family so the only thing that is holding me back is the drive, and the fact that I have 2 lovely cats that I cannot take with me. We can't even really sit down and talk without having an argument. I feel like I have to agree with everything he says or I will get made to feel like shit. I am just an angry bitch right now! Also, I recently cosigned on a truck for him becuase his credit is shit. And now that is hanging over my head. He is not physically abusive, just not mentally attached to me it seems. Whenever I have a bad day at work, and want to talk about it, there are times where he will say stuff like "Your day does not compare with mine.. I have real problems, you work part time, how big can your problems be?" He does not like my family really because they don't have much money, therefor he does not think they are worth shit to him because they aren't in the position to help us out, and in his eyes becuase I am the one bringing him down, they should send lots of money. I go to school 14 credit hours. I did work a full time job that allowed me to do my homework on the job, but because I was not busy enough at my job he basically made me feel so bad about it that I quit. The economy is so bad that the only thing I have been able to find is part time, so I filled the rest of my time with classes, so now I am stuck until May when the classes are over. Then sometimes he will say "Just work on getting your ursgin degree, that is how you can help us out the most"... My head is just spinning right now. I am at a crossroads. I don't know what to say to reach him, and make him feel as if my opinions and feelings matter...
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1 :
I am sorry that I barely found this article, I am big fan of reading about real problems rather then one liners that people put on there so here is my two cents, but hopefully you won't need this and you will be able to go on with your life HAPPILY! First the alcohol, that is a problem and him not drinking is something he knows is an addiction, that sucks because when the first drink comes its over. It becomes the next drink and then the next drink. Before you know it, it has become the addiction all over again. Verbal Abuse... Your confidence will be nothing very soon. Absolutely nothing. This type of abuse reminds me of a southern movie or something about a woman coming to empowerment. The reason I say that is because you are no longer treated as a princess or even loved like one. I am a male and trust me I have my cravings. Not every part of intercourse is making love HOWEVER every time you both do this, its not even close. Every time he is living a porno with foul language. Your body is sacred and special... He does not respect you in the least bit, he believes that you are well beneath him. (There to SERVICE to him.) For what ever reason, to boost up his ego, to make himself feel superior, or just to be the so called "Man" either the case it is wrong. Plane and simple wrong. You are worth way more then what you are given credit for. You are the submissive person in the relationship and usually there is nothing wrong with that. Having to dominate people often times creates greater conflict but can be very fun at the same time. Your case he has beat you down so far that you words shocked me. " I feel like I have to agree with everything he says or I will get made to feel like ****." So you are saying that its totally ok not to have an opinion any longer, you are saying as living person you can't think for yourself. He is selfish, he is unappreciative. I promise you this will escalate even though you say that there is no physical abuse, but trust me there is. Abuse is present. I am sure you are thinking about his good qualities to justify him. But all you are doing is saying that it is ok. I am sure things started out great, love etc... They do not exist any longer. Finally, your question... Is there a way to reach out to him? Yes, leave... That's the only way he will understand the severity of the issue. You need take accountability because at this point you have said that its ok for him to tell you all of these horrible things and at this point you are changing your ways where this type of behavior is not going to be tolerated! (Accountability is means to understand where failed, however this isn't justifying his actions by any means.) Good luck and you are welcome to email me at anytime as a friend to talk to. ADAM
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I am finally seriuly thinking about leaving my live in boyfriend of 4 years. Tonight was the last straw. He told me yesterday that he might go out with one of the reps at his company at some big bar for this guys b-day... he wanted to "role solo", in his words.. cool with me, we see each other every day. But he told me today he does not really want to go, and he probably won't. I go to work out, and im gone for 30 minutes and he is gone. No note, no nothing! I call him and he tells me he woke up from his nap and just decided he was bored and he wanted to go to the bar. Fine by me.. although I was a little ticked at the fact that he could not even tell me goodbye, he knew where I was! At the apartment complex gym! He told me he will be home in and hour or 2 (at 6pm). He has a problem with liquor, so now all he does is beer, but he drank liquor for the first time last night in a while... maybe opened up pandoras box? because normally when he is just doing beer he is home soon, but it is now almost midnight and no sign of him. Not even a phone call, or a text message. I have called him numerous times becuase I am worried about him drinking and driving, but he does not answer and does not call me back. I text him and told him that I am pretty much done. I have been dealing with this crap for a while. I have gained a little weight that I am trying to work off, and he is on this kick that I need to weigh 118 lbs, and I am 5'8! I want to be at 130, but he disagrees. I work part time because I am a full time student trying to get accepted into nursing school, and a lot of the times he tells me whenever we have an argument that I bring nothing to the table because I make less than him. He also tells me that he can do better than me and that when he goes out alone, he has attractive, successful girls hitting on him all the time and he wonders why he is with me. Never appologies because somehow I brought it on myself... That is why I am so pissed that he is not answering his phone now! I have no trust in him. I am not even attracted to him. When he wants to be intimate, he will say stuff like "put ur lips around my cock", or "i wanna tare that pussy up"... just stuff that is not even romantic. It is hard to even lay in the bed with him without him trying to grope me and say "Oooh, I love your tits!!! Wanna fuck?"!!!!!! Ugh! I live 8 hours away from my family so the only thing that is holding me back is the drive, and the fact that I have 2 lovely cats that I cannot take with me. We can't even really sit down and talk without having an argument. I feel like I have to agree with everything he says or I will get made to feel like shit. I am just an angry bitch right now! Also, I recently cosigned on a truck for him becuase his credit is shit. And now that is hanging over my head. He is not physically abusive, just not mentally attached to me it seems. Whenever I have a bad day at work, and want to talk about it, there are times where he will say stuff like "Your day does not compare with mine.. I have real problems, you work part time, how big can your problems be?" He does not like my family really because they don't have much money, therefor he does not think they are worth shit to him because they aren't in the position to help us out, and in his eyes becuase I am the one bringing him down, they should send lots of money. I go to school 14 credit hours. I did work a full time job that allowed me to do my homework on the job, but because I was not busy enough at my job he basically made me feel so bad about it that I quit. The economy is so bad that the only thing I have been able to find is part time, so I filled the rest of my time with classes, so now I am stuck until May when the classes are over. Then sometimes he will say "Just work on getting your ursgin degree, that is how you can help us out the most"... My head is just spinning right now. I am at a crossroads. I don't know what to say to reach him, and make him feel as if my opinions and feelings matter...
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I am sorry that I barely found this article, I am big fan of reading about real problems rather then one liners that people put on there so here is my two cents, but hopefully you won't need this and you will be able to go on with your life HAPPILY! First the alcohol, that is a problem and him not drinking is something he knows is an addiction, that sucks because when the first drink comes its over. It becomes the next drink and then the next drink. Before you know it, it has become the addiction all over again. Verbal Abuse... Your confidence will be nothing very soon. Absolutely nothing. This type of abuse reminds me of a southern movie or something about a woman coming to empowerment. The reason I say that is because you are no longer treated as a princess or even loved like one. I am a male and trust me I have my cravings. Not every part of intercourse is making love HOWEVER every time you both do this, its not even close. Every time he is living a porno with foul language. Your body is sacred and special... He does not respect you in the least bit, he believes that you are well beneath him. (There to SERVICE to him.) For what ever reason, to boost up his ego, to make himself feel superior, or just to be the so called "Man" either the case it is wrong. Plane and simple wrong. You are worth way more then what you are given credit for. You are the submissive person in the relationship and usually there is nothing wrong with that. Having to dominate people often times creates greater conflict but can be very fun at the same time. Your case he has beat you down so far that you words shocked me. " I feel like I have to agree with everything he says or I will get made to feel like ****." So you are saying that its totally ok not to have an opinion any longer, you are saying as living person you can't think for yourself. He is selfish, he is unappreciative. I promise you this will escalate even though you say that there is no physical abuse, but trust me there is. Abuse is present. I am sure you are thinking about his good qualities to justify him. But all you are doing is saying that it is ok. I am sure things started out great, love etc... They do not exist any longer. Finally, your question... Is there a way to reach out to him? Yes, leave... That's the only way he will understand the severity of the issue. You need take accountability because at this point you have said that its ok for him to tell you all of these horrible things and at this point you are changing your ways where this type of behavior is not going to be tolerated! (Accountability is means to understand where failed, however this isn't justifying his actions by any means.) Good luck and you are welcome to email me at anytime as a friend to talk to. ADAM
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Friday, September 7, 2012
Freaking out about college admissions, need your thoughts
Freaking out about college admissions, need your thoughts!?
I am a Junior in High School and I have always been accustomed to receiving great grades, which in my book is all A's. My sophomore year I slipped a little bit though and received a B in my Honors Algebra II class, but Math is most definitely not my strong point. Not only did I get a B in a class, but I also had two A minuses. My cumulative unweighted GPA after my Freshman and Sophomore years was a 3.9. This year though, everything just seems to be going wrong. My grades read as this... Spanish IV- A Debate- A Honors Physics- see-sawing between a B+ and A- AP European History- A Trig and Functions (without a doubt, the hardest math class in my school because of the teacher and the academically rigorous two day tests)- a most lovely C Choir and Gym- A's My unweighted GPA is just around a 3.6 and I am worried out-of-my-mind that this is going to ruin any chance I have at getting into a school of my liking. Obviously I am aware that GPA isn't the only factor taken into account during the admissions process, but I can't help but worry about my seemingly dreadful year. I am a fairly well rounded student. I partake in several clubs, like Student Council, Mock Trial, Key Club, and I am a Thespian member of Drama club. I am also a large part of my school's choir. I was officer of my sophomore choir and will be officer once again next year. I am in my school's elite choir, Chamber Singers, and our own Glee Club called Broadway Bound. I have continuously placed Superior at Solo Ensemble since 7th grade and was one of two Freshman to make it to State at my school that year, and have gone ever since. I also have played the violin since age 4 and traveled to Costa Rica and Washington DC with my touring elite violin group to play non-profit concerts and teach local children. Also, since age 10 I have been attending summer College-Prep programs. I attended three programs at the University of Wisconsin-Madison starting at age 10 and continuing throughout middle school, and two summers ago I was admitted and attended camp at Columbia University in Manhattan for Law. This past fall I was invited out of 250 students in the US to attend a National Youth Leadership Forum on Law in Washington DC, and this summer I plan on going to a summer program at either Brown or Georgetown for Journalism, along with taking a month long quest to South America for community service. I am also a member of NSHSS and volunteer at my local food and clothing shelter and play my violin at nursing homes regularly. I have not yet taken the SAT or ACT, but am signed up to do within the next two months. My projected ACT composite is anywhere from a 31-33, and my PSAT score was in the 90% in the country. So, with my credentials, do you think there is a remote possibility of me getting into schools such as....(granted I have a killer essay and improved grades from this semester) Columbia NYU Georgetown UConn UW-Madison UGA UCLA USC Pepperdine Brown Northwestern Thanks for taking the time to listen to me drone on.
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Wait until December of your senior year.. that's when you start having panic attacks.. oh is it just me? While your ECs in music are fantastic, C is definitely going to count against you for the Ivies... sorry. Not sure if they care about stuff you have done before high school, but those camps may also help you... my family could not afford camps so I also did something else instead. What's your passion? Is it law? If so, can't you go get some real life experience at a law firm? I like physics and I have researched and will research more for professors. To increase your chances, consider submitting a music supplement. Your GPA won't KILL your chances, but write good essays. I don't want to get into that too much. Columbia - Reach (As it is for everyone) Georgetown - Not sure/didn't research, but I assume reach UConn - Match? UW- Madison - Public.. should be in.. UGA... dont know UCLA - GPA is a bit low, but we'll have to see weighted GPA: Match, low reach USC - Low Reach? Pepperdine - Low reach/reach Brown - reach Northwestern - high match Really unsure about some schools, and it is hard to tell with your PSAT scores. My PSAT score was a 191 and was a 93 percentile... that means it's a 1910 SAT and is a pretty bad score. I increased it eventually but if you did get below a 2000, a lot of your match schools would become reaches. Don't report your SAT if it's bad, but I'm not sure if you could really get away not reporting. Good luck! You really do have impressive music E.C., like I said, be well rounded and write good essays and get good recs!
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I agree with what Minuel mentioned, and want to add that you can check mychances.net to see where your stats would stand right now. I want to revise her thoughts a bit as well-Columbia - Reach (As it is for everyone) AGREE Georgetown - Not sure/didn't research, but I assume reach IT IS A REACH, YES UConn - Match? AGREE UW- Madison - Public.. should be in..NO- ITS A MODERATELY SELECTIVE SCHOOL, SO COULD GO EITHER WAY UGA... MATCH UCLA - GPA is a bit low, but we'll have to see weighted GPA: Match, low reach AGREE USC - Low Reach? AGREE Pepperdine - Low reach/reach Brown - reach Northwestern - high match- THIS IS THE ONE I DISAGREE WITH MOST, THIS IS A REACH FOR SURE
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I am a Junior in High School and I have always been accustomed to receiving great grades, which in my book is all A's. My sophomore year I slipped a little bit though and received a B in my Honors Algebra II class, but Math is most definitely not my strong point. Not only did I get a B in a class, but I also had two A minuses. My cumulative unweighted GPA after my Freshman and Sophomore years was a 3.9. This year though, everything just seems to be going wrong. My grades read as this... Spanish IV- A Debate- A Honors Physics- see-sawing between a B+ and A- AP European History- A Trig and Functions (without a doubt, the hardest math class in my school because of the teacher and the academically rigorous two day tests)- a most lovely C Choir and Gym- A's My unweighted GPA is just around a 3.6 and I am worried out-of-my-mind that this is going to ruin any chance I have at getting into a school of my liking. Obviously I am aware that GPA isn't the only factor taken into account during the admissions process, but I can't help but worry about my seemingly dreadful year. I am a fairly well rounded student. I partake in several clubs, like Student Council, Mock Trial, Key Club, and I am a Thespian member of Drama club. I am also a large part of my school's choir. I was officer of my sophomore choir and will be officer once again next year. I am in my school's elite choir, Chamber Singers, and our own Glee Club called Broadway Bound. I have continuously placed Superior at Solo Ensemble since 7th grade and was one of two Freshman to make it to State at my school that year, and have gone ever since. I also have played the violin since age 4 and traveled to Costa Rica and Washington DC with my touring elite violin group to play non-profit concerts and teach local children. Also, since age 10 I have been attending summer College-Prep programs. I attended three programs at the University of Wisconsin-Madison starting at age 10 and continuing throughout middle school, and two summers ago I was admitted and attended camp at Columbia University in Manhattan for Law. This past fall I was invited out of 250 students in the US to attend a National Youth Leadership Forum on Law in Washington DC, and this summer I plan on going to a summer program at either Brown or Georgetown for Journalism, along with taking a month long quest to South America for community service. I am also a member of NSHSS and volunteer at my local food and clothing shelter and play my violin at nursing homes regularly. I have not yet taken the SAT or ACT, but am signed up to do within the next two months. My projected ACT composite is anywhere from a 31-33, and my PSAT score was in the 90% in the country. So, with my credentials, do you think there is a remote possibility of me getting into schools such as....(granted I have a killer essay and improved grades from this semester) Columbia NYU Georgetown UConn UW-Madison UGA UCLA USC Pepperdine Brown Northwestern Thanks for taking the time to listen to me drone on.
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Wait until December of your senior year.. that's when you start having panic attacks.. oh is it just me? While your ECs in music are fantastic, C is definitely going to count against you for the Ivies... sorry. Not sure if they care about stuff you have done before high school, but those camps may also help you... my family could not afford camps so I also did something else instead. What's your passion? Is it law? If so, can't you go get some real life experience at a law firm? I like physics and I have researched and will research more for professors. To increase your chances, consider submitting a music supplement. Your GPA won't KILL your chances, but write good essays. I don't want to get into that too much. Columbia - Reach (As it is for everyone) Georgetown - Not sure/didn't research, but I assume reach UConn - Match? UW- Madison - Public.. should be in.. UGA... dont know UCLA - GPA is a bit low, but we'll have to see weighted GPA: Match, low reach USC - Low Reach? Pepperdine - Low reach/reach Brown - reach Northwestern - high match Really unsure about some schools, and it is hard to tell with your PSAT scores. My PSAT score was a 191 and was a 93 percentile... that means it's a 1910 SAT and is a pretty bad score. I increased it eventually but if you did get below a 2000, a lot of your match schools would become reaches. Don't report your SAT if it's bad, but I'm not sure if you could really get away not reporting. Good luck! You really do have impressive music E.C., like I said, be well rounded and write good essays and get good recs!
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I agree with what Minuel mentioned, and want to add that you can check mychances.net to see where your stats would stand right now. I want to revise her thoughts a bit as well-Columbia - Reach (As it is for everyone) AGREE Georgetown - Not sure/didn't research, but I assume reach IT IS A REACH, YES UConn - Match? AGREE UW- Madison - Public.. should be in..NO- ITS A MODERATELY SELECTIVE SCHOOL, SO COULD GO EITHER WAY UGA... MATCH UCLA - GPA is a bit low, but we'll have to see weighted GPA: Match, low reach AGREE USC - Low Reach? AGREE Pepperdine - Low reach/reach Brown - reach Northwestern - high match- THIS IS THE ONE I DISAGREE WITH MOST, THIS IS A REACH FOR SURE
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Saturday, September 1, 2012
Do you think Robert Plant has sold out to be an American Idol
Do you think Robert Plant has sold out to be an American Idol?
How old is Plant? Sixty something? 60-61? He's fairly close in age to Paul McCartney 66 and Mick Jagger and those guys are like nursing home and assisted living old. How does this English bloke sprout more hair at 60 plus years than most Brits sport by age 30? I wager that could be a Led Zeppelin hairpiece. He looks like Brian Seacrest with long hair and a soul patch. So what do you guys and gals think of Plant teaming up with his niece (she is certainly young enough to be) Allison Krauss? I never cared for Plant's falsetto shrieking in Led Zep but the bluesy acoustic stuff he did with Page was decent if he kept his range below falsetto drag queen screeching tones. Personally, I think he should stick to Led Zeppelin reunions or get a Zep like band going solo. This teaming up of these two was a slick marketing ploy that has obviously sold well but it has the artistic merit of a collection of advertising jingles. If all that glitters is gold, Plant is certainly making up for lost time being a pop star and buying his Stairway to Heaven on a marketing scheme that makes Brittney Spears seem like a legitimate folk singer songwriter by comparison.Should the Plant/Krauss follow up CD be entitled "Whole Lotta BS"?
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Great thing about bands like Led Zep, The Stones, and the Beatles is that none of them stayed within the strict frame work of 1 genre. All three allowed influences of many types of music both past and (at the time of creation) present. Stones and Zep had songs either tinged with, or were written as country, reggae, jazz, blues. Most bands now are crucified ifthey dare step out of a very tightly defined genre. I applaud Plant for making music that is different from his norm. It keeps him and his sound fresh.
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How old is Plant? Sixty something? 60-61? He's fairly close in age to Paul McCartney 66 and Mick Jagger and those guys are like nursing home and assisted living old. How does this English bloke sprout more hair at 60 plus years than most Brits sport by age 30? I wager that could be a Led Zeppelin hairpiece. He looks like Brian Seacrest with long hair and a soul patch. So what do you guys and gals think of Plant teaming up with his niece (she is certainly young enough to be) Allison Krauss? I never cared for Plant's falsetto shrieking in Led Zep but the bluesy acoustic stuff he did with Page was decent if he kept his range below falsetto drag queen screeching tones. Personally, I think he should stick to Led Zeppelin reunions or get a Zep like band going solo. This teaming up of these two was a slick marketing ploy that has obviously sold well but it has the artistic merit of a collection of advertising jingles. If all that glitters is gold, Plant is certainly making up for lost time being a pop star and buying his Stairway to Heaven on a marketing scheme that makes Brittney Spears seem like a legitimate folk singer songwriter by comparison.Should the Plant/Krauss follow up CD be entitled "Whole Lotta BS"?
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Great thing about bands like Led Zep, The Stones, and the Beatles is that none of them stayed within the strict frame work of 1 genre. All three allowed influences of many types of music both past and (at the time of creation) present. Stones and Zep had songs either tinged with, or were written as country, reggae, jazz, blues. Most bands now are crucified ifthey dare step out of a very tightly defined genre. I applaud Plant for making music that is different from his norm. It keeps him and his sound fresh.
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Tuesday, August 28, 2012
I need advice elder care
I need advice elder care?
After a year of carin ( basically solo ) for my mom with cancer ( gave up my menial job shut off few social contacts ) on fri i apparenly fell apart dont remember much but she was put in a nursing home wo my consent Now i cant see her or no where she is my family has had contact is this legal. I have heard from realatives they will call me but 2 days they have not I have power of Attorney and mom is confused by the pain killers she takes. I am in vermont. Does anyone know my rights and assumin i could should i try and legally force them to see mom get her home or trust that she is bein cared for. Also her soc security is what keeps bills paid since i left work can nursin home take that even though it would leave her and me homeless. No idea if they have tried but worried bout it She is I have been told gettin hear treatments which ealier in a confused state she was balkin at. Up until now i have been drivin her the 60mi rd trip she is now closer as far as I know ( not sure where )
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i have just answered this question in the senior section and i will stand with that answer - would cut and paste but do not know how!!!
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After a year of carin ( basically solo ) for my mom with cancer ( gave up my menial job shut off few social contacts ) on fri i apparenly fell apart dont remember much but she was put in a nursing home wo my consent Now i cant see her or no where she is my family has had contact is this legal. I have heard from realatives they will call me but 2 days they have not I have power of Attorney and mom is confused by the pain killers she takes. I am in vermont. Does anyone know my rights and assumin i could should i try and legally force them to see mom get her home or trust that she is bein cared for. Also her soc security is what keeps bills paid since i left work can nursin home take that even though it would leave her and me homeless. No idea if they have tried but worried bout it She is I have been told gettin hear treatments which ealier in a confused state she was balkin at. Up until now i have been drivin her the 60mi rd trip she is now closer as far as I know ( not sure where )
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i have just answered this question in the senior section and i will stand with that answer - would cut and paste but do not know how!!!
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Tuesday, August 14, 2012
Is it worth being a second wife to a man who is never home before 10 at night
Is it worth being a second wife to a man who is never home before 10 at night?
Been engaged for 2 years to a man who has serious financial obligations to his ex and children. I like his kids but feel as though I can no longer pay half of our household bills, he makes about 4 times what I do. I'm a full time student and I work but it is not enough money. I'm tired of being left alone untill 10 every night. For the last year I took care of his elderly father who recently went into a nursing home- because I'm no longer doing this he says he can no longer subsidize my cell phone and 40 buck a week health insurance. I know his kids come first but should he cut me a break on the cell phone and insurance untill I finish school in 2 years? I feel as though 100 percent of my income is going to our house. I have a child who lives with us that I support entirely but with my income I cant subsidize his kids to. He pays there rent, tuition, books, utilities on apartment, and the ex 2200 a month- altogether he pays out about 65,000 a year which leaves us with little and my child really poor. Should I move into a cheap affordable appartment and go solo? Before you bash me and say we are not married keep in mind I pay half the house expenses on a house that I dont own and never will also I spent the last year taking care of an 86 year old man with alzheimers his father and it was not easy. I'm really glad his kids have no struggles financially but mine does.
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ya you shouldn't be with someone in his situation.. You are both going in different directions in life. You would be happier on your own for now, and meeting a guy who you can start your own family with when you're ready. I'd imagine it is burdensome to have his responsibilities and children forced on you.
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idk where being home before 10pm fits in here. But if living with him creates financial stress for you and your child, MOVE OUT. like you said you arent married and its not your house. I think you need to reexamine why you are getting married. His kids and ex will always be a factor. Make sure you are marrying for love not for him to be the breadwinner. it looks like thats not gonna be possible.
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I don't really think he should have to pay for your things. Because as you've mentioned he has children to care for. But he shouldn't be taking care of his ex. Unless they have some legal agreement. He isn't ever around, so yes move away and go solo. You may be able to get insurance for yourself and your kid and get help with bills and such through the assistance office. You'll have to check with your local one. Because it may vary from state to state. I don't know much about this relationship with him. Is he working all that time or just going out and having fun. Honestly you need to do what's best for your baby. And since your money is paying half of everything in his home, you need to get yourself out of there. It's not your home so I don't know why you're taking care of it. I understand helping out. But he also has to understand you're in school and have a child to care for. So your money has to go to taking care of your kid and you. Yes leave.
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Your husband has it made.Did you ever think that you deserve better than that.Such disrespect on his part.When you develop some self-esteem you will see how easy it is to tell him to take a hike.Learn to love yourself and the rest will follow.You deserve more than being a slave to someone.Save your $$ and go.Run...Good luck.
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To me it sounds like he's using you to help him out with HIS life. He doesn't sound like he really wants a romantic relationship with you. You've been engaged for a while now and he doesn't want to pay your cell bill because you're not helping HIS father anymore? That's selfish. I'm afraid that if you stay with him you will still be unhappy for the next 2 years. Not that the money should matter but that's a lot of money he's paying to his first family. YOU still exist. He has to remember that. Where is he so late every night? And what if you get pregnant and he has another child to support?? You have to think about YOUR child and yourself. I'm sure you can make it on your own. You have a good head on your shoulders and you need to start a new phase in your life...withOUT him. He's obviously not ready to start a new life with someone new yet. I really hope it works out for you. Good luck
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You are truly getting the short end of everything, as is your child.. yes, I feel that it is time to move out on your own to find someone who does not have this much obligation and baggage.. he is not taking good care of you, and it does not look as though he values you in the same light as he does his other obligations.. you will be much happier with someone who can give more to you in many ways..
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You aren't subsidizing his children. You are subsidizing HIM. I think you need to consider your childs future as much (if not more) than some man's financial needs. Sit down together, talk, review the household budget and take things from there. If he's not willing to compromise on something else for your phone and insurance you know you have other things to think about.
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I would lovingly point out that you have said a lot of what you don't like and don't want. Have you put as much time into thinking about what you do like and what you do want? I think that may turn this whole thing around for you. When your goals are clear the path is clear and when the path is clear you will know if you are on the way exactly or if these things are all aside from that path. Is he supporting your schooling? Is there anything from this relationship that supports your goals? Do you just want to be swept away and on a beach somewhere without thinking of your future perhaps? Do you live each day reaching for an image that has no qualification or grounding in real life circumstances? I'm just saying your picture is a little lopsided. Where are the things you do want in relation to this picture? That's all. You can live through this if it's on the way to all the things you want. Good luck friend
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Been engaged for 2 years to a man who has serious financial obligations to his ex and children. I like his kids but feel as though I can no longer pay half of our household bills, he makes about 4 times what I do. I'm a full time student and I work but it is not enough money. I'm tired of being left alone untill 10 every night. For the last year I took care of his elderly father who recently went into a nursing home- because I'm no longer doing this he says he can no longer subsidize my cell phone and 40 buck a week health insurance. I know his kids come first but should he cut me a break on the cell phone and insurance untill I finish school in 2 years? I feel as though 100 percent of my income is going to our house. I have a child who lives with us that I support entirely but with my income I cant subsidize his kids to. He pays there rent, tuition, books, utilities on apartment, and the ex 2200 a month- altogether he pays out about 65,000 a year which leaves us with little and my child really poor. Should I move into a cheap affordable appartment and go solo? Before you bash me and say we are not married keep in mind I pay half the house expenses on a house that I dont own and never will also I spent the last year taking care of an 86 year old man with alzheimers his father and it was not easy. I'm really glad his kids have no struggles financially but mine does.
Marriage & Divorce - 8 Answers
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1 :
ya you shouldn't be with someone in his situation.. You are both going in different directions in life. You would be happier on your own for now, and meeting a guy who you can start your own family with when you're ready. I'd imagine it is burdensome to have his responsibilities and children forced on you.
2 :
idk where being home before 10pm fits in here. But if living with him creates financial stress for you and your child, MOVE OUT. like you said you arent married and its not your house. I think you need to reexamine why you are getting married. His kids and ex will always be a factor. Make sure you are marrying for love not for him to be the breadwinner. it looks like thats not gonna be possible.
3 :
I don't really think he should have to pay for your things. Because as you've mentioned he has children to care for. But he shouldn't be taking care of his ex. Unless they have some legal agreement. He isn't ever around, so yes move away and go solo. You may be able to get insurance for yourself and your kid and get help with bills and such through the assistance office. You'll have to check with your local one. Because it may vary from state to state. I don't know much about this relationship with him. Is he working all that time or just going out and having fun. Honestly you need to do what's best for your baby. And since your money is paying half of everything in his home, you need to get yourself out of there. It's not your home so I don't know why you're taking care of it. I understand helping out. But he also has to understand you're in school and have a child to care for. So your money has to go to taking care of your kid and you. Yes leave.
4 :
Your husband has it made.Did you ever think that you deserve better than that.Such disrespect on his part.When you develop some self-esteem you will see how easy it is to tell him to take a hike.Learn to love yourself and the rest will follow.You deserve more than being a slave to someone.Save your $$ and go.Run...Good luck.
5 :
To me it sounds like he's using you to help him out with HIS life. He doesn't sound like he really wants a romantic relationship with you. You've been engaged for a while now and he doesn't want to pay your cell bill because you're not helping HIS father anymore? That's selfish. I'm afraid that if you stay with him you will still be unhappy for the next 2 years. Not that the money should matter but that's a lot of money he's paying to his first family. YOU still exist. He has to remember that. Where is he so late every night? And what if you get pregnant and he has another child to support?? You have to think about YOUR child and yourself. I'm sure you can make it on your own. You have a good head on your shoulders and you need to start a new phase in your life...withOUT him. He's obviously not ready to start a new life with someone new yet. I really hope it works out for you. Good luck
6 :
You are truly getting the short end of everything, as is your child.. yes, I feel that it is time to move out on your own to find someone who does not have this much obligation and baggage.. he is not taking good care of you, and it does not look as though he values you in the same light as he does his other obligations.. you will be much happier with someone who can give more to you in many ways..
7 :
You aren't subsidizing his children. You are subsidizing HIM. I think you need to consider your childs future as much (if not more) than some man's financial needs. Sit down together, talk, review the household budget and take things from there. If he's not willing to compromise on something else for your phone and insurance you know you have other things to think about.
8 :
I would lovingly point out that you have said a lot of what you don't like and don't want. Have you put as much time into thinking about what you do like and what you do want? I think that may turn this whole thing around for you. When your goals are clear the path is clear and when the path is clear you will know if you are on the way exactly or if these things are all aside from that path. Is he supporting your schooling? Is there anything from this relationship that supports your goals? Do you just want to be swept away and on a beach somewhere without thinking of your future perhaps? Do you live each day reaching for an image that has no qualification or grounding in real life circumstances? I'm just saying your picture is a little lopsided. Where are the things you do want in relation to this picture? That's all. You can live through this if it's on the way to all the things you want. Good luck friend
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Tuesday, August 7, 2012
Is it worth being a second wife to a man who is never home before 10 at night
Is it worth being a second wife to a man who is never home before 10 at night?
Been engaged for 2 years to a man who has serious financial obligations to his ex and children. I like his kids but feel as though I can no longer pay half of our household bills, he makes about 4 times what I do. I'm a full time student and I work but it is not enough money. I'm tired of being left alone untill 10 every night. For the last year I took care of his elderly father who recently went into a nursing home- because I'm no longer doing this he says he can no longer subsidize my cell phone and 40 buck a week health insurance. I know his kids come first but should he cut me a break on the cell phone and insurance untill I finish school in 2 years? I feel as though 100 percent of my income is going to our house. I have a child who lives with us that I support entirely but with my income I cant subsidize his kids to. He pays there rent, tuition, books, utilities on apartment, and the ex 2200 a month- altogether he pays out about 65,000 a year which leaves us with little and my child really poor. Should I move into a cheap affordable appartment and go solo? Before you bash me and say we are not married keep in mind I pay half the house expenses on a house that I dont own and never will also I spent the last year taking care of an 86 year old man with alzheimers his father and it was not easy. I'm really glad his kids have no struggles financially but mine does.
Marriage & Divorce - 8 Answers
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1 :
ya you shouldn't be with someone in his situation.. You are both going in different directions in life. You would be happier on your own for now, and meeting a guy who you can start your own family with when you're ready. I'd imagine it is burdensome to have his responsibilities and children forced on you.
2 :
idk where being home before 10pm fits in here. But if living with him creates financial stress for you and your child, MOVE OUT. like you said you arent married and its not your house. I think you need to reexamine why you are getting married. His kids and ex will always be a factor. Make sure you are marrying for love not for him to be the breadwinner. it looks like thats not gonna be possible.
3 :
I don't really think he should have to pay for your things. Because as you've mentioned he has children to care for. But he shouldn't be taking care of his ex. Unless they have some legal agreement. He isn't ever around, so yes move away and go solo. You may be able to get insurance for yourself and your kid and get help with bills and such through the assistance office. You'll have to check with your local one. Because it may vary from state to state. I don't know much about this relationship with him. Is he working all that time or just going out and having fun. Honestly you need to do what's best for your baby. And since your money is paying half of everything in his home, you need to get yourself out of there. It's not your home so I don't know why you're taking care of it. I understand helping out. But he also has to understand you're in school and have a child to care for. So your money has to go to taking care of your kid and you. Yes leave.
4 :
Your husband has it made.Did you ever think that you deserve better than that.Such disrespect on his part.When you develop some self-esteem you will see how easy it is to tell him to take a hike.Learn to love yourself and the rest will follow.You deserve more than being a slave to someone.Save your $$ and go.Run...Good luck.
5 :
To me it sounds like he's using you to help him out with HIS life. He doesn't sound like he really wants a romantic relationship with you. You've been engaged for a while now and he doesn't want to pay your cell bill because you're not helping HIS father anymore? That's selfish. I'm afraid that if you stay with him you will still be unhappy for the next 2 years. Not that the money should matter but that's a lot of money he's paying to his first family. YOU still exist. He has to remember that. Where is he so late every night? And what if you get pregnant and he has another child to support?? You have to think about YOUR child and yourself. I'm sure you can make it on your own. You have a good head on your shoulders and you need to start a new phase in your life...withOUT him. He's obviously not ready to start a new life with someone new yet. I really hope it works out for you. Good luck
6 :
You are truly getting the short end of everything, as is your child.. yes, I feel that it is time to move out on your own to find someone who does not have this much obligation and baggage.. he is not taking good care of you, and it does not look as though he values you in the same light as he does his other obligations.. you will be much happier with someone who can give more to you in many ways..
7 :
You aren't subsidizing his children. You are subsidizing HIM. I think you need to consider your childs future as much (if not more) than some man's financial needs. Sit down together, talk, review the household budget and take things from there. If he's not willing to compromise on something else for your phone and insurance you know you have other things to think about.
8 :
I would lovingly point out that you have said a lot of what you don't like and don't want. Have you put as much time into thinking about what you do like and what you do want? I think that may turn this whole thing around for you. When your goals are clear the path is clear and when the path is clear you will know if you are on the way exactly or if these things are all aside from that path. Is he supporting your schooling? Is there anything from this relationship that supports your goals? Do you just want to be swept away and on a beach somewhere without thinking of your future perhaps? Do you live each day reaching for an image that has no qualification or grounding in real life circumstances? I'm just saying your picture is a little lopsided. Where are the things you do want in relation to this picture? That's all. You can live through this if it's on the way to all the things you want. Good luck friend
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Been engaged for 2 years to a man who has serious financial obligations to his ex and children. I like his kids but feel as though I can no longer pay half of our household bills, he makes about 4 times what I do. I'm a full time student and I work but it is not enough money. I'm tired of being left alone untill 10 every night. For the last year I took care of his elderly father who recently went into a nursing home- because I'm no longer doing this he says he can no longer subsidize my cell phone and 40 buck a week health insurance. I know his kids come first but should he cut me a break on the cell phone and insurance untill I finish school in 2 years? I feel as though 100 percent of my income is going to our house. I have a child who lives with us that I support entirely but with my income I cant subsidize his kids to. He pays there rent, tuition, books, utilities on apartment, and the ex 2200 a month- altogether he pays out about 65,000 a year which leaves us with little and my child really poor. Should I move into a cheap affordable appartment and go solo? Before you bash me and say we are not married keep in mind I pay half the house expenses on a house that I dont own and never will also I spent the last year taking care of an 86 year old man with alzheimers his father and it was not easy. I'm really glad his kids have no struggles financially but mine does.
Marriage & Divorce - 8 Answers
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1 :
ya you shouldn't be with someone in his situation.. You are both going in different directions in life. You would be happier on your own for now, and meeting a guy who you can start your own family with when you're ready. I'd imagine it is burdensome to have his responsibilities and children forced on you.
2 :
idk where being home before 10pm fits in here. But if living with him creates financial stress for you and your child, MOVE OUT. like you said you arent married and its not your house. I think you need to reexamine why you are getting married. His kids and ex will always be a factor. Make sure you are marrying for love not for him to be the breadwinner. it looks like thats not gonna be possible.
3 :
I don't really think he should have to pay for your things. Because as you've mentioned he has children to care for. But he shouldn't be taking care of his ex. Unless they have some legal agreement. He isn't ever around, so yes move away and go solo. You may be able to get insurance for yourself and your kid and get help with bills and such through the assistance office. You'll have to check with your local one. Because it may vary from state to state. I don't know much about this relationship with him. Is he working all that time or just going out and having fun. Honestly you need to do what's best for your baby. And since your money is paying half of everything in his home, you need to get yourself out of there. It's not your home so I don't know why you're taking care of it. I understand helping out. But he also has to understand you're in school and have a child to care for. So your money has to go to taking care of your kid and you. Yes leave.
4 :
Your husband has it made.Did you ever think that you deserve better than that.Such disrespect on his part.When you develop some self-esteem you will see how easy it is to tell him to take a hike.Learn to love yourself and the rest will follow.You deserve more than being a slave to someone.Save your $$ and go.Run...Good luck.
5 :
To me it sounds like he's using you to help him out with HIS life. He doesn't sound like he really wants a romantic relationship with you. You've been engaged for a while now and he doesn't want to pay your cell bill because you're not helping HIS father anymore? That's selfish. I'm afraid that if you stay with him you will still be unhappy for the next 2 years. Not that the money should matter but that's a lot of money he's paying to his first family. YOU still exist. He has to remember that. Where is he so late every night? And what if you get pregnant and he has another child to support?? You have to think about YOUR child and yourself. I'm sure you can make it on your own. You have a good head on your shoulders and you need to start a new phase in your life...withOUT him. He's obviously not ready to start a new life with someone new yet. I really hope it works out for you. Good luck
6 :
You are truly getting the short end of everything, as is your child.. yes, I feel that it is time to move out on your own to find someone who does not have this much obligation and baggage.. he is not taking good care of you, and it does not look as though he values you in the same light as he does his other obligations.. you will be much happier with someone who can give more to you in many ways..
7 :
You aren't subsidizing his children. You are subsidizing HIM. I think you need to consider your childs future as much (if not more) than some man's financial needs. Sit down together, talk, review the household budget and take things from there. If he's not willing to compromise on something else for your phone and insurance you know you have other things to think about.
8 :
I would lovingly point out that you have said a lot of what you don't like and don't want. Have you put as much time into thinking about what you do like and what you do want? I think that may turn this whole thing around for you. When your goals are clear the path is clear and when the path is clear you will know if you are on the way exactly or if these things are all aside from that path. Is he supporting your schooling? Is there anything from this relationship that supports your goals? Do you just want to be swept away and on a beach somewhere without thinking of your future perhaps? Do you live each day reaching for an image that has no qualification or grounding in real life circumstances? I'm just saying your picture is a little lopsided. Where are the things you do want in relation to this picture? That's all. You can live through this if it's on the way to all the things you want. Good luck friend
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Wednesday, August 1, 2012
Is this relationship worth it
Is this relationship worth it?
Been engaged for 2 years to a man who has serious financial obligations to his ex and children. I like his kids but feel as though I can no longer pay half of our household bills, he makes about 4 times what I do. I'm a full time student and I work but it is not enough money. I'm tired of being left alone untill 10 every night. For the last year I took care of his elderly father who recently went into a nursing home- because I'm no longer doing this he says he can no longer subsidize my cell phone and 40 buck a week health insurance. I know his kids come first but should he cut me a break on the cell phone and insurance untill I finish school in 2 years? I feel as though 100 percent of my income is going to our house. I have a child who lives with us that I support entirely but with my income I cant subsidize his kids to. He pays there rent, tuition, books, utilities on apartment, and the ex 2200 a month- altogether he pays out about 65,000 a year which leaves us with little and my child really poor. Should I move into a cheap affordable appartment and go solo? Before you bash me and say we are not married keep in mind I pay half the house expenses on a house that I dont own and never will also I spent the last year taking care of an 86 year old man with alzheimers his father and it was not easy. I'm really glad his kids have no struggles financially but mine does.
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1 :
i think you may have to have a discussion with your fiance about this. But if the problem has reached a point where you feel that he gives more attention/money to his ex and kids maybe you should just tell him your moving out until you finish school or he can figure out what is important remember don't burn bridges just close them for maintenance
2 :
If I were you I wouldnt do it he is just being cheap and probably using you for you money so he dont have to spend his
3 :
This is where I stopped reading: "For the last year I took care of his elderly father who recently went into a nursing home- because I'm no longer doing this he says he can no longer subsidize my cell phone and 40 buck a week health insurance." Ok ... I'm not going to mince words or sugar coat this ... just so you know before you read: Your guy is a creep. He's a selfish, self-centered, tightwad JERK. I will now finish reading the rest of your post ... but I doubt I'll read anything to change my mind. Nope. I didn't read anything that's changed my mind. Your guy is being totally ridiculous to split hairs over money, when he makes 4 times what you do, and when he can CLEARLY SEE that you're struggling. What kind of cretin treats a woman like that? He doesn't respect you. He doesn't love you. Your kid is watching you and learning from you, how to be treated by a man. This is BAD right now. There's nothing positive I can say about any of this, hon. As tough love ... I have to tell you that you've made a mess out of this, and it kills me to say it. I KNOW that you're doing the best you can, and that your heart is in the right place ... but good intentions aren't the point here. You have to extricate yourself out of that house A S A P. You ran yourself ragged taking care of his father, and THIS IS HOW HE THANKS YOU !?!! HE'S A CREEP !!! What is so loving, tender, sweet, romantic and admirable about a guy who treats you like he's treating you? He doesn't RESPECT YOU !! You're not equals - he sees you AND TREATS YOU as someone beneath him in stature and income - and that's just sad. Basically ... he's a snob, and he's treating you like the hired help. Do whatever it takes, but get out. No this relationship isn't worth saving. Spend NOT ONE MORE DOLLAR on anything that doesn't involve taking care of yourself and your kid. Give him NOTHING. N o t h i n g. I know that your self-respect is around there somewhere ... make sure you figure out where he hid it, and take it BACK before you leave. I know ... some of this was harsh, but it's no worse than HOW HE IS TREATING YOU ! I just smacked you over the head with it. You probably didn't want to see it, but you have to, hon. *big hug* and best of luck to you
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Been engaged for 2 years to a man who has serious financial obligations to his ex and children. I like his kids but feel as though I can no longer pay half of our household bills, he makes about 4 times what I do. I'm a full time student and I work but it is not enough money. I'm tired of being left alone untill 10 every night. For the last year I took care of his elderly father who recently went into a nursing home- because I'm no longer doing this he says he can no longer subsidize my cell phone and 40 buck a week health insurance. I know his kids come first but should he cut me a break on the cell phone and insurance untill I finish school in 2 years? I feel as though 100 percent of my income is going to our house. I have a child who lives with us that I support entirely but with my income I cant subsidize his kids to. He pays there rent, tuition, books, utilities on apartment, and the ex 2200 a month- altogether he pays out about 65,000 a year which leaves us with little and my child really poor. Should I move into a cheap affordable appartment and go solo? Before you bash me and say we are not married keep in mind I pay half the house expenses on a house that I dont own and never will also I spent the last year taking care of an 86 year old man with alzheimers his father and it was not easy. I'm really glad his kids have no struggles financially but mine does.
Other - Family & Relationships - 3 Answers
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1 :
i think you may have to have a discussion with your fiance about this. But if the problem has reached a point where you feel that he gives more attention/money to his ex and kids maybe you should just tell him your moving out until you finish school or he can figure out what is important remember don't burn bridges just close them for maintenance
2 :
If I were you I wouldnt do it he is just being cheap and probably using you for you money so he dont have to spend his
3 :
This is where I stopped reading: "For the last year I took care of his elderly father who recently went into a nursing home- because I'm no longer doing this he says he can no longer subsidize my cell phone and 40 buck a week health insurance." Ok ... I'm not going to mince words or sugar coat this ... just so you know before you read: Your guy is a creep. He's a selfish, self-centered, tightwad JERK. I will now finish reading the rest of your post ... but I doubt I'll read anything to change my mind. Nope. I didn't read anything that's changed my mind. Your guy is being totally ridiculous to split hairs over money, when he makes 4 times what you do, and when he can CLEARLY SEE that you're struggling. What kind of cretin treats a woman like that? He doesn't respect you. He doesn't love you. Your kid is watching you and learning from you, how to be treated by a man. This is BAD right now. There's nothing positive I can say about any of this, hon. As tough love ... I have to tell you that you've made a mess out of this, and it kills me to say it. I KNOW that you're doing the best you can, and that your heart is in the right place ... but good intentions aren't the point here. You have to extricate yourself out of that house A S A P. You ran yourself ragged taking care of his father, and THIS IS HOW HE THANKS YOU !?!! HE'S A CREEP !!! What is so loving, tender, sweet, romantic and admirable about a guy who treats you like he's treating you? He doesn't RESPECT YOU !! You're not equals - he sees you AND TREATS YOU as someone beneath him in stature and income - and that's just sad. Basically ... he's a snob, and he's treating you like the hired help. Do whatever it takes, but get out. No this relationship isn't worth saving. Spend NOT ONE MORE DOLLAR on anything that doesn't involve taking care of yourself and your kid. Give him NOTHING. N o t h i n g. I know that your self-respect is around there somewhere ... make sure you figure out where he hid it, and take it BACK before you leave. I know ... some of this was harsh, but it's no worse than HOW HE IS TREATING YOU ! I just smacked you over the head with it. You probably didn't want to see it, but you have to, hon. *big hug* and best of luck to you
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Saturday, July 28, 2012
What Can i do in this spot
What Can i do in this spot?
After a year of carin ( basically solo ) for my mom with cancer ( gave up my menial job shut off few social contacts ) on fri i apparenly fell apart dont remember much but she was put in a nursing home wo my consent Apperantly i am deemed a nut job cant see her suddenly out of state family ( who mean well and have done what they can ) and 9-5 so called profesionals ( jerkoffs the lot of them ) are in charge and i am just here with nothin waitin for scumbag lawyers to come and take our house while mom rots somewhere
Mental Health - 4 Answers
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1 :
What I suggest you do is to search for your mother so that you may visit her, search for a job over the internet or look for advice from someone in order to save your home, unless they are going to use the funds to pay for your mothers care. But focus most of your efforts on the job search because you are going to need that money in future and you need to start thinking and caring more for yourself. It is hard when these things happen to us and I know what you are going through as it happened with my parents too. But your mother wouldnt want you to suffer and she would want you to continue on with your life as best you can.
2 :
There is some law about if a parent is in a nursing home, their home may not be taken away from them. Try to talk to someone that specializes in the elderly or with people in nursing homes. Maybe a social worker at the hospital that was treating your mom can give you advice along these lines. I am sorry for all the stress you have put up with. I hope you will be feeling better again soon. Please take care of yourself.
3 :
are you your mothers legal guardian? if so you have every right to go and take her back home as long as you can care for her. You need some counseling I take care of my disabled daughter 24/7 and I know how hard it is mentally and physically. If your not her legal guardian you should go to court and get it that way no one can tell you what to do concerning her as for your house you can go to the bank and refinance it that will save you from loosing it. Best of luck to you hope these suggestions help you out alittle bit I am really sorry to hear of your troubles I am not a Dr but if you need someone to talk to email me I will do whatever I can to help you out friend. Gentle hugs
4 :
he jade dude , i really just wanted to say i really sympathise with you right now, my heart goes out to you , i pray you get through this, im struggling like fck myself at the moment , my muums ill, cant get around or be supportive like she once was , im isolated and alone in life ....even though your 3,000 milesaway i know im not alone , because your there to, i hope the best for you and this unfair shhty situation sorts itself out, im with you dude, best regards
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After a year of carin ( basically solo ) for my mom with cancer ( gave up my menial job shut off few social contacts ) on fri i apparenly fell apart dont remember much but she was put in a nursing home wo my consent Apperantly i am deemed a nut job cant see her suddenly out of state family ( who mean well and have done what they can ) and 9-5 so called profesionals ( jerkoffs the lot of them ) are in charge and i am just here with nothin waitin for scumbag lawyers to come and take our house while mom rots somewhere
Mental Health - 4 Answers
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1 :
What I suggest you do is to search for your mother so that you may visit her, search for a job over the internet or look for advice from someone in order to save your home, unless they are going to use the funds to pay for your mothers care. But focus most of your efforts on the job search because you are going to need that money in future and you need to start thinking and caring more for yourself. It is hard when these things happen to us and I know what you are going through as it happened with my parents too. But your mother wouldnt want you to suffer and she would want you to continue on with your life as best you can.
2 :
There is some law about if a parent is in a nursing home, their home may not be taken away from them. Try to talk to someone that specializes in the elderly or with people in nursing homes. Maybe a social worker at the hospital that was treating your mom can give you advice along these lines. I am sorry for all the stress you have put up with. I hope you will be feeling better again soon. Please take care of yourself.
3 :
are you your mothers legal guardian? if so you have every right to go and take her back home as long as you can care for her. You need some counseling I take care of my disabled daughter 24/7 and I know how hard it is mentally and physically. If your not her legal guardian you should go to court and get it that way no one can tell you what to do concerning her as for your house you can go to the bank and refinance it that will save you from loosing it. Best of luck to you hope these suggestions help you out alittle bit I am really sorry to hear of your troubles I am not a Dr but if you need someone to talk to email me I will do whatever I can to help you out friend. Gentle hugs
4 :
he jade dude , i really just wanted to say i really sympathise with you right now, my heart goes out to you , i pray you get through this, im struggling like fck myself at the moment , my muums ill, cant get around or be supportive like she once was , im isolated and alone in life ....even though your 3,000 milesaway i know im not alone , because your there to, i hope the best for you and this unfair shhty situation sorts itself out, im with you dude, best regards
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Saturday, July 14, 2012
playing guitar has started to hurt
playing guitar has started to hurt?
so i've been playing guitar for... more than i year now, i guess (dunno the specific date, but about that long) and it's never *hurt* for me-- apart from, you know, the building of the calluses-- until about two days ago when my wrist started to *really* hurt. my mom's a nurse and she told me to lay off guitar for a while; and i did, but it was still hurting when i tried to carry anything or if i pressed down on something. she thinks it's probably either tendinitis or carpal tunnel and she told me not to play for a week or two. i haven't been doing anything a whole lot differently as far as playing goes, i play rhythm in a band so i haven't been doing any aggressive solos (or any at all), i've just been playing chords like normal. i have been practicing more, which is what i thought it was from originally, but because the pain has lasted so long, even when i've stopped playing altogether, stopped using pretty much my entire left arm and i've been taking ibuprofen (motrin) as an anti-inflammatory and wrapping my wrist at night. i know it's common to have wrist pain as a guitarist, but the nature of the pain is worrying me, i don't want to do any serious damage by just playing through this if it's something serious and not just normal pain. should i see a doctor or should i just stop playing for a week or two?
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I have a friend who had the same problem as you. He is the head guitarist in his band and he couldn't go as fast as he normally wanted. He went to his doctor and they actually had to do surgery on his elbow (he had some sort of carpal tunnel in his elbows causing his wrists to hurt while playing. It would hurt in his thumb area too. Does yours? I would definitely go to a doctor and check it out. Ibuprofen is good (as you know for the inflammation). I work at a pain doctor that does injections (in the wrists and elbows). Maybe you should check out something like that if you don't want to go the extreme route. They could also refer you for physical therapy for your wrists. Good luck!
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so i've been playing guitar for... more than i year now, i guess (dunno the specific date, but about that long) and it's never *hurt* for me-- apart from, you know, the building of the calluses-- until about two days ago when my wrist started to *really* hurt. my mom's a nurse and she told me to lay off guitar for a while; and i did, but it was still hurting when i tried to carry anything or if i pressed down on something. she thinks it's probably either tendinitis or carpal tunnel and she told me not to play for a week or two. i haven't been doing anything a whole lot differently as far as playing goes, i play rhythm in a band so i haven't been doing any aggressive solos (or any at all), i've just been playing chords like normal. i have been practicing more, which is what i thought it was from originally, but because the pain has lasted so long, even when i've stopped playing altogether, stopped using pretty much my entire left arm and i've been taking ibuprofen (motrin) as an anti-inflammatory and wrapping my wrist at night. i know it's common to have wrist pain as a guitarist, but the nature of the pain is worrying me, i don't want to do any serious damage by just playing through this if it's something serious and not just normal pain. should i see a doctor or should i just stop playing for a week or two?
Pain & Pain Management - 1 Answers
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I have a friend who had the same problem as you. He is the head guitarist in his band and he couldn't go as fast as he normally wanted. He went to his doctor and they actually had to do surgery on his elbow (he had some sort of carpal tunnel in his elbows causing his wrists to hurt while playing. It would hurt in his thumb area too. Does yours? I would definitely go to a doctor and check it out. Ibuprofen is good (as you know for the inflammation). I work at a pain doctor that does injections (in the wrists and elbows). Maybe you should check out something like that if you don't want to go the extreme route. They could also refer you for physical therapy for your wrists. Good luck!
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Saturday, July 7, 2012
Why do I feel like a failure...why am I being hard on myself
Why do I feel like a failure...why am I being hard on myself?
Today was one of the worst days I've had in a long time. I missed my flight to S. America in the morning. I've been playing this trip out for 6 months. I just graduated from nursing school and thought I'd give myself a travel gift for 6 years of hard work, sacrifice, and plain not having a life due to studying so much. I paid $3400 total including flight. I've never traveled before let alone been on an airplane. I planned this trip out for myself...a solo trip w/ a tour group. Couple of friends bailed out but that wasn't going to stop me from going. Well, since I wasn't too familiar w/ the rules I showed up 1 hr 40 min early and was turned away b/c I had to be 3 hrs early. My older brother wasn't too supportive...they said it is common sense...then how come they didn't tell me as they dropped me off the airport. It's easy to point the finger, but why didn't they speak up. I was ignorant of the rules. I don't know what happened but I started to be really hard on myself, was crying a lot throughout the day, and felt like a failure. Tried to find another flight but unsuccessful...there is one in a few days but I don't have the money to pay the difference in ticket...I honestly put my last dime on this trip so I had just the right amount. My parents are financially in a bind...they heard me sobbing over the phone but they could not help. Then I just started to pity myself...I hated myself for doing this today. I'm a beautiful inside/out as many people say but I'm alone b/c guys choose sluts over me....I'm "travel-less", and poor until I start work w/in the next month. Can't get a refund for my tour. Why was I so hard on myself? It's unlike me.
Psychology - 3 Answers
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That sucks! You're clearly being so hard on yourself because this trip meant so much to you. I know you're feeling bad now, but it only just happened to you and you'll feel better later. Ignore your brother, don't take him so seriously. It is your fault, but don't beat yourself up about it, it's happened, and it's not the worst thing in world. You'll feel better tomorrow. Good luck
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Hey, I would've done the same. Three hours seem excessive. Don't be pessimistic, maybe it happened for a reason? There's a lot of gang war happening down there anyways, wouldn't want to get caught up in that. Congrats on your degree though! (: Cheer up
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i can understand where you are coming from but you are being a little too hard on yourself. and pls, you're not a failure. you just graduated from nursing, give yourself a pat in the back :) you'll earn that money in no time as a nurse
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Today was one of the worst days I've had in a long time. I missed my flight to S. America in the morning. I've been playing this trip out for 6 months. I just graduated from nursing school and thought I'd give myself a travel gift for 6 years of hard work, sacrifice, and plain not having a life due to studying so much. I paid $3400 total including flight. I've never traveled before let alone been on an airplane. I planned this trip out for myself...a solo trip w/ a tour group. Couple of friends bailed out but that wasn't going to stop me from going. Well, since I wasn't too familiar w/ the rules I showed up 1 hr 40 min early and was turned away b/c I had to be 3 hrs early. My older brother wasn't too supportive...they said it is common sense...then how come they didn't tell me as they dropped me off the airport. It's easy to point the finger, but why didn't they speak up. I was ignorant of the rules. I don't know what happened but I started to be really hard on myself, was crying a lot throughout the day, and felt like a failure. Tried to find another flight but unsuccessful...there is one in a few days but I don't have the money to pay the difference in ticket...I honestly put my last dime on this trip so I had just the right amount. My parents are financially in a bind...they heard me sobbing over the phone but they could not help. Then I just started to pity myself...I hated myself for doing this today. I'm a beautiful inside/out as many people say but I'm alone b/c guys choose sluts over me....I'm "travel-less", and poor until I start work w/in the next month. Can't get a refund for my tour. Why was I so hard on myself? It's unlike me.
Psychology - 3 Answers
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That sucks! You're clearly being so hard on yourself because this trip meant so much to you. I know you're feeling bad now, but it only just happened to you and you'll feel better later. Ignore your brother, don't take him so seriously. It is your fault, but don't beat yourself up about it, it's happened, and it's not the worst thing in world. You'll feel better tomorrow. Good luck
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Hey, I would've done the same. Three hours seem excessive. Don't be pessimistic, maybe it happened for a reason? There's a lot of gang war happening down there anyways, wouldn't want to get caught up in that. Congrats on your degree though! (: Cheer up
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i can understand where you are coming from but you are being a little too hard on yourself. and pls, you're not a failure. you just graduated from nursing, give yourself a pat in the back :) you'll earn that money in no time as a nurse
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Sunday, July 1, 2012
Elder care Question help
Elder care Question help?
After a year of carin ( basically solo ) for my mom with cancer ( gave up my menial job shut off few social contacts ) on fri i apparenly fell apart dont remember much but she was put in a nursing home wo my consent Now i cant see her or no where she is my family has had contact is this legal. I have heard from realatives they will call me but 2 days they have not I have power of Attorney and mom is confused by the pain killers she takes. I am in vermont. Does anyone know my rights and assumin i could should i try and legally force them to see mom get her home or trust that she is bein cared for. Also her soc security is what keeps bills paid since i left work can nursin home take that even though it would leave her and me homeless. No idea if they have tried but worried bout it She is I have been told gettin hear treatments which ealier in a confused state she was balkin at. Up until now i have been drivin her the 60mi rd trip she is now closer as far as I know ( not sure where )
Senior Citizens - 4 Answers
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normally when a person goes into a nursing home and does not have the money to pay there way medicare will cover the first 30 days after that the state will take the ss check as payment and also attach any property in that person's name to be sold upon death to off set bills!!!
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Sounds like the authorities stepped in to do what your mom would have never allowed you to do. Old, sick, folks get very belligerent sometimes and don't know what's best for them or their families. Don't fight it. Let her stay where she is. The nursing home will file proper paper work for getting her qualified for medicaid so that the nursing home bills can be paid. They have no such concern for you, and your mom is not homeless. You might be though. That means, if you don't want the lights turned off, find a job.
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pardon big letters but GET HER ASSESTS FROZEN they can assign someoneoutside the family get a lawyer whateveryou call legal profession..been there done that good luck..
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Forgive me, but the way your question is stated, it's a little hard to understand. I would suggest either spell check or stating a complete sentence. Questions like this need a lot of details. You do not state WHO put her in a nursing home, and with you having the power of attorney, this does not make sense. Unless she was not being taken care of correctly, adult protective services can step in at any time and take custody of her from you. Since you don't know where she was taken and what home she is currently in raises another red flag. You also state you were driving her 60 miles, but were you driving to her, or driving her to the doctor or? I just can't understand your question enough to give you proper answers. Again, it appears that Adult Protective Services has taken control. If you have Power of Attorney, you can contact an attorney and file proceedings to confirm control or her estate and her. If you fell apart and someone saw you do this, and you were reported to not be a good person or caregiver to take care of her, your rights could be taken away and courts will file to be in control of everything. You also do not state if you are an only child and hinted that relatives did this. Please supply more details - and see an attorney.
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After a year of carin ( basically solo ) for my mom with cancer ( gave up my menial job shut off few social contacts ) on fri i apparenly fell apart dont remember much but she was put in a nursing home wo my consent Now i cant see her or no where she is my family has had contact is this legal. I have heard from realatives they will call me but 2 days they have not I have power of Attorney and mom is confused by the pain killers she takes. I am in vermont. Does anyone know my rights and assumin i could should i try and legally force them to see mom get her home or trust that she is bein cared for. Also her soc security is what keeps bills paid since i left work can nursin home take that even though it would leave her and me homeless. No idea if they have tried but worried bout it She is I have been told gettin hear treatments which ealier in a confused state she was balkin at. Up until now i have been drivin her the 60mi rd trip she is now closer as far as I know ( not sure where )
Senior Citizens - 4 Answers
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normally when a person goes into a nursing home and does not have the money to pay there way medicare will cover the first 30 days after that the state will take the ss check as payment and also attach any property in that person's name to be sold upon death to off set bills!!!
2 :
Sounds like the authorities stepped in to do what your mom would have never allowed you to do. Old, sick, folks get very belligerent sometimes and don't know what's best for them or their families. Don't fight it. Let her stay where she is. The nursing home will file proper paper work for getting her qualified for medicaid so that the nursing home bills can be paid. They have no such concern for you, and your mom is not homeless. You might be though. That means, if you don't want the lights turned off, find a job.
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pardon big letters but GET HER ASSESTS FROZEN they can assign someoneoutside the family get a lawyer whateveryou call legal profession..been there done that good luck..
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Forgive me, but the way your question is stated, it's a little hard to understand. I would suggest either spell check or stating a complete sentence. Questions like this need a lot of details. You do not state WHO put her in a nursing home, and with you having the power of attorney, this does not make sense. Unless she was not being taken care of correctly, adult protective services can step in at any time and take custody of her from you. Since you don't know where she was taken and what home she is currently in raises another red flag. You also state you were driving her 60 miles, but were you driving to her, or driving her to the doctor or? I just can't understand your question enough to give you proper answers. Again, it appears that Adult Protective Services has taken control. If you have Power of Attorney, you can contact an attorney and file proceedings to confirm control or her estate and her. If you fell apart and someone saw you do this, and you were reported to not be a good person or caregiver to take care of her, your rights could be taken away and courts will file to be in control of everything. You also do not state if you are an only child and hinted that relatives did this. Please supply more details - and see an attorney.
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Thursday, June 28, 2012
Hill's Prescription Diet A/D Question
Hill's Prescription Diet A/D Question ????
Hello everyone! I have tons of questions to ask!The other day I have found a stray that had kittens.This stray has been around, and she never looked pregnant.I remember seeing her around, and she seemed skinny.The stray is pretty young! I can tell because she is pretty small.Well looking at kittens they seem really tiny, and I am a little worried.Today I went to the pet store to buy food for the cat. The first thing I bought was kitten food by Schesir.Then the girl that worked at the counter told me to get Hill's Prescription Diet A/D (caned food), and Solo by DRN. The girl told me that this stuff is full of protein, and energy.I thought okay I will get it because it seems like what the stray needs.I know that I should ask the vet,but I decided to first ask here.How much food should I give to a young skinny nursing cat that lives outside?Should I give first the Hill's A/D,and then Solo?Plus how long should I give it to her, and can I give it to her with other food at the same time?
Cats - 5 Answers
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you need to mix the 2 foods together as you can't change food back and forth with animals as there digestive system can't handle it.
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i dont know try 1 food
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Hi What is true is that ad is a bit calorie intensive. What is also true is that it is horrible food and not necessarily good calories. This is not food a cat should eat I am glad it is canned food You do not need kitten foo eithe You didn't mention how old the kitten are, If under 6 weeks they need mothers miulk or special formula http://www.kittenrescue.org/handbook.htm If over 6 weeks they should all be eating the same thing. Quality canned foods Thank you so much for rescuing Here is some info and good links Nutrition since there are so many bad things out there is very important to your cat’s health Contrary to what you may have heard; dry foods are not a great thing to feed a cat. Please read the label on what you are feeding? What are the ingredients? Do you know what they mean? Is the first ingrdiant a muscle meat like chicken or meal or other things? http://www.catinfo.org/#Learn_How_To_Read_a_Pet_Food_Ingredient_Label Dry foods are the number 1 cause of diabetes in cats as well as being a huge contributing factor to kidney disease, obesity, crystals, u.t.i’s and a host of other problems. Food allergies are very common when feeding dry foods. Rashes, scabs behind the tail and on the chin are all symptoms The problems associated with Dry food is that they are loaded with grfains and carbohydrates which many cats (carnivores) cannot process them. Also, Most of the moisture a cat needs is suppose to be in the food but in Dry, 95% of it is zapped out of dry foods in the processing. Another thing, most use horrible ingredients and don't use a muscle meat as the primary ingredient and use vegetable based protein versus animal. Not good for an animal that has to eat meat to survive. You want to pick a canned food w/o gravy (gravy=carbs) that uses a muscle meat as the first ingredient and doesn't have corn at least in the first 3 ingredients if at all. Fancy feast is a middle grade food with 9lives, friskies whiskas lower grade canned and wellness and merrick upper grade human quality foods. Also, dry food is not proven to be better for teeth. Does a hard pretzel clean your teeth or do pieces of it get stuck? http://www.felinefuture.com/nutrition/bpo_ch4a.php Please read about cat nutrition. http://www.newdestiny.us/nutritionbasics.html http://www.catinfo.org/feline_obesity.htm http://maxshouse.com/feline_nutrition.htm#Dry_Food_vs_Canned_Food.__Which_is_reall
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A/D is not suitable for long term feeding. Your best bet is high protein low carb non vet food, ranging from fancy feast up to wellness. For more info including a list of acceptable commercial foods, see www.catinfo.org
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i just wrote everything you need to know and this dam thing froze email me and i will send you my number so you can ring me or email me with yours and i will ring you back. for all i know your at the other side of the world but i have experience and want to help you well the family of kitten n mum to so the phonebill can go "% for the mean time.
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Hello everyone! I have tons of questions to ask!The other day I have found a stray that had kittens.This stray has been around, and she never looked pregnant.I remember seeing her around, and she seemed skinny.The stray is pretty young! I can tell because she is pretty small.Well looking at kittens they seem really tiny, and I am a little worried.Today I went to the pet store to buy food for the cat. The first thing I bought was kitten food by Schesir.Then the girl that worked at the counter told me to get Hill's Prescription Diet A/D (caned food), and Solo by DRN. The girl told me that this stuff is full of protein, and energy.I thought okay I will get it because it seems like what the stray needs.I know that I should ask the vet,but I decided to first ask here.How much food should I give to a young skinny nursing cat that lives outside?Should I give first the Hill's A/D,and then Solo?Plus how long should I give it to her, and can I give it to her with other food at the same time?
Cats - 5 Answers
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you need to mix the 2 foods together as you can't change food back and forth with animals as there digestive system can't handle it.
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i dont know try 1 food
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Hi What is true is that ad is a bit calorie intensive. What is also true is that it is horrible food and not necessarily good calories. This is not food a cat should eat I am glad it is canned food You do not need kitten foo eithe You didn't mention how old the kitten are, If under 6 weeks they need mothers miulk or special formula http://www.kittenrescue.org/handbook.htm If over 6 weeks they should all be eating the same thing. Quality canned foods Thank you so much for rescuing Here is some info and good links Nutrition since there are so many bad things out there is very important to your cat’s health Contrary to what you may have heard; dry foods are not a great thing to feed a cat. Please read the label on what you are feeding? What are the ingredients? Do you know what they mean? Is the first ingrdiant a muscle meat like chicken or meal or other things? http://www.catinfo.org/#Learn_How_To_Read_a_Pet_Food_Ingredient_Label Dry foods are the number 1 cause of diabetes in cats as well as being a huge contributing factor to kidney disease, obesity, crystals, u.t.i’s and a host of other problems. Food allergies are very common when feeding dry foods. Rashes, scabs behind the tail and on the chin are all symptoms The problems associated with Dry food is that they are loaded with grfains and carbohydrates which many cats (carnivores) cannot process them. Also, Most of the moisture a cat needs is suppose to be in the food but in Dry, 95% of it is zapped out of dry foods in the processing. Another thing, most use horrible ingredients and don't use a muscle meat as the primary ingredient and use vegetable based protein versus animal. Not good for an animal that has to eat meat to survive. You want to pick a canned food w/o gravy (gravy=carbs) that uses a muscle meat as the first ingredient and doesn't have corn at least in the first 3 ingredients if at all. Fancy feast is a middle grade food with 9lives, friskies whiskas lower grade canned and wellness and merrick upper grade human quality foods. Also, dry food is not proven to be better for teeth. Does a hard pretzel clean your teeth or do pieces of it get stuck? http://www.felinefuture.com/nutrition/bpo_ch4a.php Please read about cat nutrition. http://www.newdestiny.us/nutritionbasics.html http://www.catinfo.org/feline_obesity.htm http://maxshouse.com/feline_nutrition.htm#Dry_Food_vs_Canned_Food.__Which_is_reall
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A/D is not suitable for long term feeding. Your best bet is high protein low carb non vet food, ranging from fancy feast up to wellness. For more info including a list of acceptable commercial foods, see www.catinfo.org
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i just wrote everything you need to know and this dam thing froze email me and i will send you my number so you can ring me or email me with yours and i will ring you back. for all i know your at the other side of the world but i have experience and want to help you well the family of kitten n mum to so the phonebill can go "% for the mean time.
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