I need advice elder care?
After a year of carin ( basically solo ) for my mom with cancer ( gave up my menial job shut off few social contacts ) on fri i apparenly fell apart dont remember much but she was put in a nursing home wo my consent Now i cant see her or no where she is my family has had contact is this legal. I have heard from realatives they will call me but 2 days they have not I have power of Attorney and mom is confused by the pain killers she takes. I am in vermont. Does anyone know my rights and assumin i could should i try and legally force them to see mom get her home or trust that she is bein cared for. Also her soc security is what keeps bills paid since i left work can nursin home take that even though it would leave her and me homeless. No idea if they have tried but worried bout it She is I have been told gettin hear treatments which ealier in a confused state she was balkin at. Up until now i have been drivin her the 60mi rd trip she is now closer as far as I know ( not sure where )
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i have just answered this question in the senior section and i will stand with that answer - would cut and paste but do not know how!!!
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Tuesday, August 28, 2012
Tuesday, August 14, 2012
Is it worth being a second wife to a man who is never home before 10 at night
Is it worth being a second wife to a man who is never home before 10 at night?
Been engaged for 2 years to a man who has serious financial obligations to his ex and children. I like his kids but feel as though I can no longer pay half of our household bills, he makes about 4 times what I do. I'm a full time student and I work but it is not enough money. I'm tired of being left alone untill 10 every night. For the last year I took care of his elderly father who recently went into a nursing home- because I'm no longer doing this he says he can no longer subsidize my cell phone and 40 buck a week health insurance. I know his kids come first but should he cut me a break on the cell phone and insurance untill I finish school in 2 years? I feel as though 100 percent of my income is going to our house. I have a child who lives with us that I support entirely but with my income I cant subsidize his kids to. He pays there rent, tuition, books, utilities on apartment, and the ex 2200 a month- altogether he pays out about 65,000 a year which leaves us with little and my child really poor. Should I move into a cheap affordable appartment and go solo? Before you bash me and say we are not married keep in mind I pay half the house expenses on a house that I dont own and never will also I spent the last year taking care of an 86 year old man with alzheimers his father and it was not easy. I'm really glad his kids have no struggles financially but mine does.
Marriage & Divorce - 8 Answers
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1 :
ya you shouldn't be with someone in his situation.. You are both going in different directions in life. You would be happier on your own for now, and meeting a guy who you can start your own family with when you're ready. I'd imagine it is burdensome to have his responsibilities and children forced on you.
2 :
idk where being home before 10pm fits in here. But if living with him creates financial stress for you and your child, MOVE OUT. like you said you arent married and its not your house. I think you need to reexamine why you are getting married. His kids and ex will always be a factor. Make sure you are marrying for love not for him to be the breadwinner. it looks like thats not gonna be possible.
3 :
I don't really think he should have to pay for your things. Because as you've mentioned he has children to care for. But he shouldn't be taking care of his ex. Unless they have some legal agreement. He isn't ever around, so yes move away and go solo. You may be able to get insurance for yourself and your kid and get help with bills and such through the assistance office. You'll have to check with your local one. Because it may vary from state to state. I don't know much about this relationship with him. Is he working all that time or just going out and having fun. Honestly you need to do what's best for your baby. And since your money is paying half of everything in his home, you need to get yourself out of there. It's not your home so I don't know why you're taking care of it. I understand helping out. But he also has to understand you're in school and have a child to care for. So your money has to go to taking care of your kid and you. Yes leave.
4 :
Your husband has it made.Did you ever think that you deserve better than that.Such disrespect on his part.When you develop some self-esteem you will see how easy it is to tell him to take a hike.Learn to love yourself and the rest will follow.You deserve more than being a slave to someone.Save your $$ and go.Run...Good luck.
5 :
To me it sounds like he's using you to help him out with HIS life. He doesn't sound like he really wants a romantic relationship with you. You've been engaged for a while now and he doesn't want to pay your cell bill because you're not helping HIS father anymore? That's selfish. I'm afraid that if you stay with him you will still be unhappy for the next 2 years. Not that the money should matter but that's a lot of money he's paying to his first family. YOU still exist. He has to remember that. Where is he so late every night? And what if you get pregnant and he has another child to support?? You have to think about YOUR child and yourself. I'm sure you can make it on your own. You have a good head on your shoulders and you need to start a new phase in your life...withOUT him. He's obviously not ready to start a new life with someone new yet. I really hope it works out for you. Good luck
6 :
You are truly getting the short end of everything, as is your child.. yes, I feel that it is time to move out on your own to find someone who does not have this much obligation and baggage.. he is not taking good care of you, and it does not look as though he values you in the same light as he does his other obligations.. you will be much happier with someone who can give more to you in many ways..
7 :
You aren't subsidizing his children. You are subsidizing HIM. I think you need to consider your childs future as much (if not more) than some man's financial needs. Sit down together, talk, review the household budget and take things from there. If he's not willing to compromise on something else for your phone and insurance you know you have other things to think about.
8 :
I would lovingly point out that you have said a lot of what you don't like and don't want. Have you put as much time into thinking about what you do like and what you do want? I think that may turn this whole thing around for you. When your goals are clear the path is clear and when the path is clear you will know if you are on the way exactly or if these things are all aside from that path. Is he supporting your schooling? Is there anything from this relationship that supports your goals? Do you just want to be swept away and on a beach somewhere without thinking of your future perhaps? Do you live each day reaching for an image that has no qualification or grounding in real life circumstances? I'm just saying your picture is a little lopsided. Where are the things you do want in relation to this picture? That's all. You can live through this if it's on the way to all the things you want. Good luck friend
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Been engaged for 2 years to a man who has serious financial obligations to his ex and children. I like his kids but feel as though I can no longer pay half of our household bills, he makes about 4 times what I do. I'm a full time student and I work but it is not enough money. I'm tired of being left alone untill 10 every night. For the last year I took care of his elderly father who recently went into a nursing home- because I'm no longer doing this he says he can no longer subsidize my cell phone and 40 buck a week health insurance. I know his kids come first but should he cut me a break on the cell phone and insurance untill I finish school in 2 years? I feel as though 100 percent of my income is going to our house. I have a child who lives with us that I support entirely but with my income I cant subsidize his kids to. He pays there rent, tuition, books, utilities on apartment, and the ex 2200 a month- altogether he pays out about 65,000 a year which leaves us with little and my child really poor. Should I move into a cheap affordable appartment and go solo? Before you bash me and say we are not married keep in mind I pay half the house expenses on a house that I dont own and never will also I spent the last year taking care of an 86 year old man with alzheimers his father and it was not easy. I'm really glad his kids have no struggles financially but mine does.
Marriage & Divorce - 8 Answers
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1 :
ya you shouldn't be with someone in his situation.. You are both going in different directions in life. You would be happier on your own for now, and meeting a guy who you can start your own family with when you're ready. I'd imagine it is burdensome to have his responsibilities and children forced on you.
2 :
idk where being home before 10pm fits in here. But if living with him creates financial stress for you and your child, MOVE OUT. like you said you arent married and its not your house. I think you need to reexamine why you are getting married. His kids and ex will always be a factor. Make sure you are marrying for love not for him to be the breadwinner. it looks like thats not gonna be possible.
3 :
I don't really think he should have to pay for your things. Because as you've mentioned he has children to care for. But he shouldn't be taking care of his ex. Unless they have some legal agreement. He isn't ever around, so yes move away and go solo. You may be able to get insurance for yourself and your kid and get help with bills and such through the assistance office. You'll have to check with your local one. Because it may vary from state to state. I don't know much about this relationship with him. Is he working all that time or just going out and having fun. Honestly you need to do what's best for your baby. And since your money is paying half of everything in his home, you need to get yourself out of there. It's not your home so I don't know why you're taking care of it. I understand helping out. But he also has to understand you're in school and have a child to care for. So your money has to go to taking care of your kid and you. Yes leave.
4 :
Your husband has it made.Did you ever think that you deserve better than that.Such disrespect on his part.When you develop some self-esteem you will see how easy it is to tell him to take a hike.Learn to love yourself and the rest will follow.You deserve more than being a slave to someone.Save your $$ and go.Run...Good luck.
5 :
To me it sounds like he's using you to help him out with HIS life. He doesn't sound like he really wants a romantic relationship with you. You've been engaged for a while now and he doesn't want to pay your cell bill because you're not helping HIS father anymore? That's selfish. I'm afraid that if you stay with him you will still be unhappy for the next 2 years. Not that the money should matter but that's a lot of money he's paying to his first family. YOU still exist. He has to remember that. Where is he so late every night? And what if you get pregnant and he has another child to support?? You have to think about YOUR child and yourself. I'm sure you can make it on your own. You have a good head on your shoulders and you need to start a new phase in your life...withOUT him. He's obviously not ready to start a new life with someone new yet. I really hope it works out for you. Good luck
6 :
You are truly getting the short end of everything, as is your child.. yes, I feel that it is time to move out on your own to find someone who does not have this much obligation and baggage.. he is not taking good care of you, and it does not look as though he values you in the same light as he does his other obligations.. you will be much happier with someone who can give more to you in many ways..
7 :
You aren't subsidizing his children. You are subsidizing HIM. I think you need to consider your childs future as much (if not more) than some man's financial needs. Sit down together, talk, review the household budget and take things from there. If he's not willing to compromise on something else for your phone and insurance you know you have other things to think about.
8 :
I would lovingly point out that you have said a lot of what you don't like and don't want. Have you put as much time into thinking about what you do like and what you do want? I think that may turn this whole thing around for you. When your goals are clear the path is clear and when the path is clear you will know if you are on the way exactly or if these things are all aside from that path. Is he supporting your schooling? Is there anything from this relationship that supports your goals? Do you just want to be swept away and on a beach somewhere without thinking of your future perhaps? Do you live each day reaching for an image that has no qualification or grounding in real life circumstances? I'm just saying your picture is a little lopsided. Where are the things you do want in relation to this picture? That's all. You can live through this if it's on the way to all the things you want. Good luck friend
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Tuesday, August 7, 2012
Is it worth being a second wife to a man who is never home before 10 at night
Is it worth being a second wife to a man who is never home before 10 at night?
Been engaged for 2 years to a man who has serious financial obligations to his ex and children. I like his kids but feel as though I can no longer pay half of our household bills, he makes about 4 times what I do. I'm a full time student and I work but it is not enough money. I'm tired of being left alone untill 10 every night. For the last year I took care of his elderly father who recently went into a nursing home- because I'm no longer doing this he says he can no longer subsidize my cell phone and 40 buck a week health insurance. I know his kids come first but should he cut me a break on the cell phone and insurance untill I finish school in 2 years? I feel as though 100 percent of my income is going to our house. I have a child who lives with us that I support entirely but with my income I cant subsidize his kids to. He pays there rent, tuition, books, utilities on apartment, and the ex 2200 a month- altogether he pays out about 65,000 a year which leaves us with little and my child really poor. Should I move into a cheap affordable appartment and go solo? Before you bash me and say we are not married keep in mind I pay half the house expenses on a house that I dont own and never will also I spent the last year taking care of an 86 year old man with alzheimers his father and it was not easy. I'm really glad his kids have no struggles financially but mine does.
Marriage & Divorce - 8 Answers
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1 :
ya you shouldn't be with someone in his situation.. You are both going in different directions in life. You would be happier on your own for now, and meeting a guy who you can start your own family with when you're ready. I'd imagine it is burdensome to have his responsibilities and children forced on you.
2 :
idk where being home before 10pm fits in here. But if living with him creates financial stress for you and your child, MOVE OUT. like you said you arent married and its not your house. I think you need to reexamine why you are getting married. His kids and ex will always be a factor. Make sure you are marrying for love not for him to be the breadwinner. it looks like thats not gonna be possible.
3 :
I don't really think he should have to pay for your things. Because as you've mentioned he has children to care for. But he shouldn't be taking care of his ex. Unless they have some legal agreement. He isn't ever around, so yes move away and go solo. You may be able to get insurance for yourself and your kid and get help with bills and such through the assistance office. You'll have to check with your local one. Because it may vary from state to state. I don't know much about this relationship with him. Is he working all that time or just going out and having fun. Honestly you need to do what's best for your baby. And since your money is paying half of everything in his home, you need to get yourself out of there. It's not your home so I don't know why you're taking care of it. I understand helping out. But he also has to understand you're in school and have a child to care for. So your money has to go to taking care of your kid and you. Yes leave.
4 :
Your husband has it made.Did you ever think that you deserve better than that.Such disrespect on his part.When you develop some self-esteem you will see how easy it is to tell him to take a hike.Learn to love yourself and the rest will follow.You deserve more than being a slave to someone.Save your $$ and go.Run...Good luck.
5 :
To me it sounds like he's using you to help him out with HIS life. He doesn't sound like he really wants a romantic relationship with you. You've been engaged for a while now and he doesn't want to pay your cell bill because you're not helping HIS father anymore? That's selfish. I'm afraid that if you stay with him you will still be unhappy for the next 2 years. Not that the money should matter but that's a lot of money he's paying to his first family. YOU still exist. He has to remember that. Where is he so late every night? And what if you get pregnant and he has another child to support?? You have to think about YOUR child and yourself. I'm sure you can make it on your own. You have a good head on your shoulders and you need to start a new phase in your life...withOUT him. He's obviously not ready to start a new life with someone new yet. I really hope it works out for you. Good luck
6 :
You are truly getting the short end of everything, as is your child.. yes, I feel that it is time to move out on your own to find someone who does not have this much obligation and baggage.. he is not taking good care of you, and it does not look as though he values you in the same light as he does his other obligations.. you will be much happier with someone who can give more to you in many ways..
7 :
You aren't subsidizing his children. You are subsidizing HIM. I think you need to consider your childs future as much (if not more) than some man's financial needs. Sit down together, talk, review the household budget and take things from there. If he's not willing to compromise on something else for your phone and insurance you know you have other things to think about.
8 :
I would lovingly point out that you have said a lot of what you don't like and don't want. Have you put as much time into thinking about what you do like and what you do want? I think that may turn this whole thing around for you. When your goals are clear the path is clear and when the path is clear you will know if you are on the way exactly or if these things are all aside from that path. Is he supporting your schooling? Is there anything from this relationship that supports your goals? Do you just want to be swept away and on a beach somewhere without thinking of your future perhaps? Do you live each day reaching for an image that has no qualification or grounding in real life circumstances? I'm just saying your picture is a little lopsided. Where are the things you do want in relation to this picture? That's all. You can live through this if it's on the way to all the things you want. Good luck friend
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Been engaged for 2 years to a man who has serious financial obligations to his ex and children. I like his kids but feel as though I can no longer pay half of our household bills, he makes about 4 times what I do. I'm a full time student and I work but it is not enough money. I'm tired of being left alone untill 10 every night. For the last year I took care of his elderly father who recently went into a nursing home- because I'm no longer doing this he says he can no longer subsidize my cell phone and 40 buck a week health insurance. I know his kids come first but should he cut me a break on the cell phone and insurance untill I finish school in 2 years? I feel as though 100 percent of my income is going to our house. I have a child who lives with us that I support entirely but with my income I cant subsidize his kids to. He pays there rent, tuition, books, utilities on apartment, and the ex 2200 a month- altogether he pays out about 65,000 a year which leaves us with little and my child really poor. Should I move into a cheap affordable appartment and go solo? Before you bash me and say we are not married keep in mind I pay half the house expenses on a house that I dont own and never will also I spent the last year taking care of an 86 year old man with alzheimers his father and it was not easy. I'm really glad his kids have no struggles financially but mine does.
Marriage & Divorce - 8 Answers
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1 :
ya you shouldn't be with someone in his situation.. You are both going in different directions in life. You would be happier on your own for now, and meeting a guy who you can start your own family with when you're ready. I'd imagine it is burdensome to have his responsibilities and children forced on you.
2 :
idk where being home before 10pm fits in here. But if living with him creates financial stress for you and your child, MOVE OUT. like you said you arent married and its not your house. I think you need to reexamine why you are getting married. His kids and ex will always be a factor. Make sure you are marrying for love not for him to be the breadwinner. it looks like thats not gonna be possible.
3 :
I don't really think he should have to pay for your things. Because as you've mentioned he has children to care for. But he shouldn't be taking care of his ex. Unless they have some legal agreement. He isn't ever around, so yes move away and go solo. You may be able to get insurance for yourself and your kid and get help with bills and such through the assistance office. You'll have to check with your local one. Because it may vary from state to state. I don't know much about this relationship with him. Is he working all that time or just going out and having fun. Honestly you need to do what's best for your baby. And since your money is paying half of everything in his home, you need to get yourself out of there. It's not your home so I don't know why you're taking care of it. I understand helping out. But he also has to understand you're in school and have a child to care for. So your money has to go to taking care of your kid and you. Yes leave.
4 :
Your husband has it made.Did you ever think that you deserve better than that.Such disrespect on his part.When you develop some self-esteem you will see how easy it is to tell him to take a hike.Learn to love yourself and the rest will follow.You deserve more than being a slave to someone.Save your $$ and go.Run...Good luck.
5 :
To me it sounds like he's using you to help him out with HIS life. He doesn't sound like he really wants a romantic relationship with you. You've been engaged for a while now and he doesn't want to pay your cell bill because you're not helping HIS father anymore? That's selfish. I'm afraid that if you stay with him you will still be unhappy for the next 2 years. Not that the money should matter but that's a lot of money he's paying to his first family. YOU still exist. He has to remember that. Where is he so late every night? And what if you get pregnant and he has another child to support?? You have to think about YOUR child and yourself. I'm sure you can make it on your own. You have a good head on your shoulders and you need to start a new phase in your life...withOUT him. He's obviously not ready to start a new life with someone new yet. I really hope it works out for you. Good luck
6 :
You are truly getting the short end of everything, as is your child.. yes, I feel that it is time to move out on your own to find someone who does not have this much obligation and baggage.. he is not taking good care of you, and it does not look as though he values you in the same light as he does his other obligations.. you will be much happier with someone who can give more to you in many ways..
7 :
You aren't subsidizing his children. You are subsidizing HIM. I think you need to consider your childs future as much (if not more) than some man's financial needs. Sit down together, talk, review the household budget and take things from there. If he's not willing to compromise on something else for your phone and insurance you know you have other things to think about.
8 :
I would lovingly point out that you have said a lot of what you don't like and don't want. Have you put as much time into thinking about what you do like and what you do want? I think that may turn this whole thing around for you. When your goals are clear the path is clear and when the path is clear you will know if you are on the way exactly or if these things are all aside from that path. Is he supporting your schooling? Is there anything from this relationship that supports your goals? Do you just want to be swept away and on a beach somewhere without thinking of your future perhaps? Do you live each day reaching for an image that has no qualification or grounding in real life circumstances? I'm just saying your picture is a little lopsided. Where are the things you do want in relation to this picture? That's all. You can live through this if it's on the way to all the things you want. Good luck friend
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Wednesday, August 1, 2012
Is this relationship worth it
Is this relationship worth it?
Been engaged for 2 years to a man who has serious financial obligations to his ex and children. I like his kids but feel as though I can no longer pay half of our household bills, he makes about 4 times what I do. I'm a full time student and I work but it is not enough money. I'm tired of being left alone untill 10 every night. For the last year I took care of his elderly father who recently went into a nursing home- because I'm no longer doing this he says he can no longer subsidize my cell phone and 40 buck a week health insurance. I know his kids come first but should he cut me a break on the cell phone and insurance untill I finish school in 2 years? I feel as though 100 percent of my income is going to our house. I have a child who lives with us that I support entirely but with my income I cant subsidize his kids to. He pays there rent, tuition, books, utilities on apartment, and the ex 2200 a month- altogether he pays out about 65,000 a year which leaves us with little and my child really poor. Should I move into a cheap affordable appartment and go solo? Before you bash me and say we are not married keep in mind I pay half the house expenses on a house that I dont own and never will also I spent the last year taking care of an 86 year old man with alzheimers his father and it was not easy. I'm really glad his kids have no struggles financially but mine does.
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1 :
i think you may have to have a discussion with your fiance about this. But if the problem has reached a point where you feel that he gives more attention/money to his ex and kids maybe you should just tell him your moving out until you finish school or he can figure out what is important remember don't burn bridges just close them for maintenance
2 :
If I were you I wouldnt do it he is just being cheap and probably using you for you money so he dont have to spend his
3 :
This is where I stopped reading: "For the last year I took care of his elderly father who recently went into a nursing home- because I'm no longer doing this he says he can no longer subsidize my cell phone and 40 buck a week health insurance." Ok ... I'm not going to mince words or sugar coat this ... just so you know before you read: Your guy is a creep. He's a selfish, self-centered, tightwad JERK. I will now finish reading the rest of your post ... but I doubt I'll read anything to change my mind. Nope. I didn't read anything that's changed my mind. Your guy is being totally ridiculous to split hairs over money, when he makes 4 times what you do, and when he can CLEARLY SEE that you're struggling. What kind of cretin treats a woman like that? He doesn't respect you. He doesn't love you. Your kid is watching you and learning from you, how to be treated by a man. This is BAD right now. There's nothing positive I can say about any of this, hon. As tough love ... I have to tell you that you've made a mess out of this, and it kills me to say it. I KNOW that you're doing the best you can, and that your heart is in the right place ... but good intentions aren't the point here. You have to extricate yourself out of that house A S A P. You ran yourself ragged taking care of his father, and THIS IS HOW HE THANKS YOU !?!! HE'S A CREEP !!! What is so loving, tender, sweet, romantic and admirable about a guy who treats you like he's treating you? He doesn't RESPECT YOU !! You're not equals - he sees you AND TREATS YOU as someone beneath him in stature and income - and that's just sad. Basically ... he's a snob, and he's treating you like the hired help. Do whatever it takes, but get out. No this relationship isn't worth saving. Spend NOT ONE MORE DOLLAR on anything that doesn't involve taking care of yourself and your kid. Give him NOTHING. N o t h i n g. I know that your self-respect is around there somewhere ... make sure you figure out where he hid it, and take it BACK before you leave. I know ... some of this was harsh, but it's no worse than HOW HE IS TREATING YOU ! I just smacked you over the head with it. You probably didn't want to see it, but you have to, hon. *big hug* and best of luck to you
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Been engaged for 2 years to a man who has serious financial obligations to his ex and children. I like his kids but feel as though I can no longer pay half of our household bills, he makes about 4 times what I do. I'm a full time student and I work but it is not enough money. I'm tired of being left alone untill 10 every night. For the last year I took care of his elderly father who recently went into a nursing home- because I'm no longer doing this he says he can no longer subsidize my cell phone and 40 buck a week health insurance. I know his kids come first but should he cut me a break on the cell phone and insurance untill I finish school in 2 years? I feel as though 100 percent of my income is going to our house. I have a child who lives with us that I support entirely but with my income I cant subsidize his kids to. He pays there rent, tuition, books, utilities on apartment, and the ex 2200 a month- altogether he pays out about 65,000 a year which leaves us with little and my child really poor. Should I move into a cheap affordable appartment and go solo? Before you bash me and say we are not married keep in mind I pay half the house expenses on a house that I dont own and never will also I spent the last year taking care of an 86 year old man with alzheimers his father and it was not easy. I'm really glad his kids have no struggles financially but mine does.
Other - Family & Relationships - 3 Answers
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1 :
i think you may have to have a discussion with your fiance about this. But if the problem has reached a point where you feel that he gives more attention/money to his ex and kids maybe you should just tell him your moving out until you finish school or he can figure out what is important remember don't burn bridges just close them for maintenance
2 :
If I were you I wouldnt do it he is just being cheap and probably using you for you money so he dont have to spend his
3 :
This is where I stopped reading: "For the last year I took care of his elderly father who recently went into a nursing home- because I'm no longer doing this he says he can no longer subsidize my cell phone and 40 buck a week health insurance." Ok ... I'm not going to mince words or sugar coat this ... just so you know before you read: Your guy is a creep. He's a selfish, self-centered, tightwad JERK. I will now finish reading the rest of your post ... but I doubt I'll read anything to change my mind. Nope. I didn't read anything that's changed my mind. Your guy is being totally ridiculous to split hairs over money, when he makes 4 times what you do, and when he can CLEARLY SEE that you're struggling. What kind of cretin treats a woman like that? He doesn't respect you. He doesn't love you. Your kid is watching you and learning from you, how to be treated by a man. This is BAD right now. There's nothing positive I can say about any of this, hon. As tough love ... I have to tell you that you've made a mess out of this, and it kills me to say it. I KNOW that you're doing the best you can, and that your heart is in the right place ... but good intentions aren't the point here. You have to extricate yourself out of that house A S A P. You ran yourself ragged taking care of his father, and THIS IS HOW HE THANKS YOU !?!! HE'S A CREEP !!! What is so loving, tender, sweet, romantic and admirable about a guy who treats you like he's treating you? He doesn't RESPECT YOU !! You're not equals - he sees you AND TREATS YOU as someone beneath him in stature and income - and that's just sad. Basically ... he's a snob, and he's treating you like the hired help. Do whatever it takes, but get out. No this relationship isn't worth saving. Spend NOT ONE MORE DOLLAR on anything that doesn't involve taking care of yourself and your kid. Give him NOTHING. N o t h i n g. I know that your self-respect is around there somewhere ... make sure you figure out where he hid it, and take it BACK before you leave. I know ... some of this was harsh, but it's no worse than HOW HE IS TREATING YOU ! I just smacked you over the head with it. You probably didn't want to see it, but you have to, hon. *big hug* and best of luck to you
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