Saturday, July 28, 2012

What Can i do in this spot

What Can i do in this spot?
After a year of carin ( basically solo ) for my mom with cancer ( gave up my menial job shut off few social contacts ) on fri i apparenly fell apart dont remember much but she was put in a nursing home wo my consent Apperantly i am deemed a nut job cant see her suddenly out of state family ( who mean well and have done what they can ) and 9-5 so called profesionals ( jerkoffs the lot of them ) are in charge and i am just here with nothin waitin for scumbag lawyers to come and take our house while mom rots somewhere
Mental Health - 4 Answers
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What I suggest you do is to search for your mother so that you may visit her, search for a job over the internet or look for advice from someone in order to save your home, unless they are going to use the funds to pay for your mothers care. But focus most of your efforts on the job search because you are going to need that money in future and you need to start thinking and caring more for yourself. It is hard when these things happen to us and I know what you are going through as it happened with my parents too. But your mother wouldnt want you to suffer and she would want you to continue on with your life as best you can.
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There is some law about if a parent is in a nursing home, their home may not be taken away from them. Try to talk to someone that specializes in the elderly or with people in nursing homes. Maybe a social worker at the hospital that was treating your mom can give you advice along these lines. I am sorry for all the stress you have put up with. I hope you will be feeling better again soon. Please take care of yourself.
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are you your mothers legal guardian? if so you have every right to go and take her back home as long as you can care for her. You need some counseling I take care of my disabled daughter 24/7 and I know how hard it is mentally and physically. If your not her legal guardian you should go to court and get it that way no one can tell you what to do concerning her as for your house you can go to the bank and refinance it that will save you from loosing it. Best of luck to you hope these suggestions help you out alittle bit I am really sorry to hear of your troubles I am not a Dr but if you need someone to talk to email me I will do whatever I can to help you out friend. Gentle hugs
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he jade dude , i really just wanted to say i really sympathise with you right now, my heart goes out to you , i pray you get through this, im struggling like fck myself at the moment , my muums ill, cant get around or be supportive like she once was , im isolated and alone in life ....even though your 3,000 milesaway i know im not alone , because your there to, i hope the best for you and this unfair shhty situation sorts itself out, im with you dude, best regards





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Saturday, July 14, 2012

playing guitar has started to hurt

playing guitar has started to hurt?
so i've been playing guitar for... more than i year now, i guess (dunno the specific date, but about that long) and it's never *hurt* for me-- apart from, you know, the building of the calluses-- until about two days ago when my wrist started to *really* hurt. my mom's a nurse and she told me to lay off guitar for a while; and i did, but it was still hurting when i tried to carry anything or if i pressed down on something. she thinks it's probably either tendinitis or carpal tunnel and she told me not to play for a week or two. i haven't been doing anything a whole lot differently as far as playing goes, i play rhythm in a band so i haven't been doing any aggressive solos (or any at all), i've just been playing chords like normal. i have been practicing more, which is what i thought it was from originally, but because the pain has lasted so long, even when i've stopped playing altogether, stopped using pretty much my entire left arm and i've been taking ibuprofen (motrin) as an anti-inflammatory and wrapping my wrist at night. i know it's common to have wrist pain as a guitarist, but the nature of the pain is worrying me, i don't want to do any serious damage by just playing through this if it's something serious and not just normal pain. should i see a doctor or should i just stop playing for a week or two?
Pain & Pain Management - 1 Answers
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I have a friend who had the same problem as you. He is the head guitarist in his band and he couldn't go as fast as he normally wanted. He went to his doctor and they actually had to do surgery on his elbow (he had some sort of carpal tunnel in his elbows causing his wrists to hurt while playing. It would hurt in his thumb area too. Does yours? I would definitely go to a doctor and check it out. Ibuprofen is good (as you know for the inflammation). I work at a pain doctor that does injections (in the wrists and elbows). Maybe you should check out something like that if you don't want to go the extreme route. They could also refer you for physical therapy for your wrists. Good luck!




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Saturday, July 7, 2012

Why do I feel like a failure...why am I being hard on myself

Why do I feel like a failure...why am I being hard on myself?
Today was one of the worst days I've had in a long time. I missed my flight to S. America in the morning. I've been playing this trip out for 6 months. I just graduated from nursing school and thought I'd give myself a travel gift for 6 years of hard work, sacrifice, and plain not having a life due to studying so much. I paid $3400 total including flight. I've never traveled before let alone been on an airplane. I planned this trip out for myself...a solo trip w/ a tour group. Couple of friends bailed out but that wasn't going to stop me from going. Well, since I wasn't too familiar w/ the rules I showed up 1 hr 40 min early and was turned away b/c I had to be 3 hrs early. My older brother wasn't too supportive...they said it is common sense...then how come they didn't tell me as they dropped me off the airport. It's easy to point the finger, but why didn't they speak up. I was ignorant of the rules. I don't know what happened but I started to be really hard on myself, was crying a lot throughout the day, and felt like a failure. Tried to find another flight but unsuccessful...there is one in a few days but I don't have the money to pay the difference in ticket...I honestly put my last dime on this trip so I had just the right amount. My parents are financially in a bind...they heard me sobbing over the phone but they could not help. Then I just started to pity myself...I hated myself for doing this today. I'm a beautiful inside/out as many people say but I'm alone b/c guys choose sluts over me....I'm "travel-less", and poor until I start work w/in the next month. Can't get a refund for my tour. Why was I so hard on myself? It's unlike me.
Psychology - 3 Answers
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That sucks! You're clearly being so hard on yourself because this trip meant so much to you. I know you're feeling bad now, but it only just happened to you and you'll feel better later. Ignore your brother, don't take him so seriously. It is your fault, but don't beat yourself up about it, it's happened, and it's not the worst thing in world. You'll feel better tomorrow. Good luck
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Hey, I would've done the same. Three hours seem excessive. Don't be pessimistic, maybe it happened for a reason? There's a lot of gang war happening down there anyways, wouldn't want to get caught up in that. Congrats on your degree though! (: Cheer up
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i can understand where you are coming from but you are being a little too hard on yourself. and pls, you're not a failure. you just graduated from nursing, give yourself a pat in the back :) you'll earn that money in no time as a nurse




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Sunday, July 1, 2012

Elder care Question help

Elder care Question help?
After a year of carin ( basically solo ) for my mom with cancer ( gave up my menial job shut off few social contacts ) on fri i apparenly fell apart dont remember much but she was put in a nursing home wo my consent Now i cant see her or no where she is my family has had contact is this legal. I have heard from realatives they will call me but 2 days they have not I have power of Attorney and mom is confused by the pain killers she takes. I am in vermont. Does anyone know my rights and assumin i could should i try and legally force them to see mom get her home or trust that she is bein cared for. Also her soc security is what keeps bills paid since i left work can nursin home take that even though it would leave her and me homeless. No idea if they have tried but worried bout it She is I have been told gettin hear treatments which ealier in a confused state she was balkin at. Up until now i have been drivin her the 60mi rd trip she is now closer as far as I know ( not sure where )
Senior Citizens - 4 Answers
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normally when a person goes into a nursing home and does not have the money to pay there way medicare will cover the first 30 days after that the state will take the ss check as payment and also attach any property in that person's name to be sold upon death to off set bills!!!
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Sounds like the authorities stepped in to do what your mom would have never allowed you to do. Old, sick, folks get very belligerent sometimes and don't know what's best for them or their families. Don't fight it. Let her stay where she is. The nursing home will file proper paper work for getting her qualified for medicaid so that the nursing home bills can be paid. They have no such concern for you, and your mom is not homeless. You might be though. That means, if you don't want the lights turned off, find a job.
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pardon big letters but GET HER ASSESTS FROZEN they can assign someoneoutside the family get a lawyer whateveryou call legal profession..been there done that good luck..
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Forgive me, but the way your question is stated, it's a little hard to understand. I would suggest either spell check or stating a complete sentence. Questions like this need a lot of details. You do not state WHO put her in a nursing home, and with you having the power of attorney, this does not make sense. Unless she was not being taken care of correctly, adult protective services can step in at any time and take custody of her from you. Since you don't know where she was taken and what home she is currently in raises another red flag. You also state you were driving her 60 miles, but were you driving to her, or driving her to the doctor or? I just can't understand your question enough to give you proper answers. Again, it appears that Adult Protective Services has taken control. If you have Power of Attorney, you can contact an attorney and file proceedings to confirm control or her estate and her. If you fell apart and someone saw you do this, and you were reported to not be a good person or caregiver to take care of her, your rights could be taken away and courts will file to be in control of everything. You also do not state if you are an only child and hinted that relatives did this. Please supply more details - and see an attorney.





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