help! I want to go for acting/singing but my mom doesn't want me to.?
Okay I really want to get into acting and singing. My mom isn't that incouraging, she wants me to be a nurse like she is or something. But i really want to do something big with my life! she will let me take classes like "teen stage" and thats with a bunch of people where u act and sing but she wont let me audition for anything big. I'm in competitive dance and im pretty advanced for my age so that could help. But idk what should I do??? like how can i convince my mom to let me audition for something big, I know you get rejected alot in acting but that wont stop me! because when i have a dream i go after it. Im not the kind of person that gives up alot. please help! Also, my mom isn't the kind of person that chases her dreams. she's a nurse but yeah she doesn't plan to do anything really big with her life so yeah she doesn't seem like she wants me to do anything big with my life either. she wont even let me do a solo in dance because its not a team thing. like seriously, sometimes i feel like all she does is bring me down =[. please help!
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I know how you feel. But acting/singing business is actually much harder than you imagine... the competition is tough, and you won't have stability that comes with technical jobs like nursing. You must be much more talented than others to make it in that industry... so your mom is just watching out for you. Don't you think it's a little harsh to say that your mom doesn't want to do anything big in her life? If you are not convinced, you will see what I mean once you start looking for jobs (whether you continue to pursue performing arts or decide to do nursing). If you have talent and you want to go for it, then go ahead. Your mom can't stop you even after you graduate and become independent. But it's really good to keep your options open just in case you change your mind... I speak from personal experience that I don't feel like sharing.
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Give her a reason why you want to take lessons. Maybe you could tell her that acting helps you speak up for yourself and builds your self confidence, by acting in front of others. Think of other reasons too. You have to learn how to speak loudly in a play, and you will be able to speak louder in real life. Hope I helped! :]
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I faced a similar problem, but don't look at it as your mother trying to hold you back or something. There are some fabulous actors/singers out there who will never become famous because the business really is tough. What she's trying to do is protect you, and I bet she's saying a whole lot about you "thinking about a real future" right now. She's not being unreasonable, but that doesn't mean that you can't come to a sort of midpoint between what you want and what she wants. When I graduated high school, all I wanted to do was act. I dropped out of college and started working in theater, but unfortunately unless you have a union card theater doesn't pay. Now I'm working towards an associates (and soon, a bachelors) degree, and acting on the side. I average about three plays a month (don't do what I'm doing, it's exhausting!), and though I don't make anything off of them unless it's dinner theater, I really enjoy myself while still working towards a teaching degree, which my mother approves of and that I like as well. Now, my mom likes to read my scripts with me, and comes to opening and closing night of every show I do. I'm sure that there are some local theaters in your town that you can audition for. Being able to dance is a HUGE boon, because even if you live in small town, USA there are typically a whole lot of musical shows being performed and they'll want people like you. As for acting-- there isn't anything you can't learn through experience. Audition for little parts and start to learn through the actors around you and soon you'll be just as good (if not better) and you can try out for those lead roles.
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Audition for school plays or teen groups and then show her that you can be in shows and still keep your grades up. Wait until you're at least out of high school before you audition for anything big. Tell your mother how you feel about theater and that you wish to try it. If you compromise and are reasonable, you may get your way.
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